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Yesterday (January 13) marked the first anniversary of my friend, Trev, committing suicide... Needless to say, it was a harsh day for a lot of us... including his VERY close knit family... Nobody really knows why Trev did what he did... he left a bunch of us notes (i treasure that note for forever) telling us how much he loved us, and all the good times he shared with us, and that kind of stuff-- but really no explanation... Trevor was an amazing guy... Always there, on call- whenever u needed him... I even called him up at 3 am one time just because i couldnt sleep and needed someone to talk to-- so he stayed on the phone with me for 2 hours-- even though he had a huge test the next day and needed sleep... He was everyones friend, he didnt despise anyone... and he had a lot of stuff going for him... So this is in loving memory of my friend Trevor... i miss you, and i love you...
If anyone else has stories they'd like to share, or memories they'd like to share, or anything like that- please feel free to add...
x0xx0 Kim
K.J.
im sorry to hear of the lost of your good friend trev, i too lost a friend, a love , the man i was to marry Jan 22 2005, only he committed suicide Dec. 27, 2004, this past year was so very hard... and being alone over the holidays was even harder... i know the pain you feel my dear. we wonder why, what went wrong, i will also never know why Tony left me... i will always love. and never never forget him, i have no notes only a police officer words of tony's last words ... that he loved me and for me never to forget that... his last words.. he loved me... theres not a day that goes by that i dont think about him, wondering why??? why was i so blinded? why didnt i see the signs...why wasnt i good enough... and as some of you know already i was at a really low point in my life that i thought that sudicide was the only way.... im still here.. sometimes i wonder why?? all i know is that Tony took something away from me .. a man that excepted me, he was a caring man, a loving man, he just had problems, an illness... in his life, in his eyes, he just thought he wasn't good enough, strong enough.thought he was bad for every one, specialy me... sorry i keep rambling on ... but this was the man of my dreams, i loved him so much...i have had so many people tell me to get over it.. to let it go...to go on with life... well i am... but until they go thru this pain...this hurt... this thought of "why didnt i see this coming" "why wasnt i good enough" Why wasnt i stong enough" and i pray that none of you will, i know we cant stop things from happening, but i know now that sometime we need to be the listeners too , people say things happen for a reason!! some we will figure out.. some we wont... Suicide is one that we will never know why ???there will always be that question in the back of our mind... WHY????
K.J, i am sorry for your loss of a good friend... Trevor,
im here for you or anyone that just wants to ramble on like i have done.. i will promose you this... you will never hear the words "just get over it" come out of my mouth... cause i know with time, things will get better....Life will go on, but we will never forget....
julie
IN MEMORY:
ANTON DALE MARTIN
"TONY" (THE GREEK)
DEC. 17 1952 - DEC. 27 2004
TO MY LOVE ...
I MISS YOU
I LOVE YOU
UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN..
YOUR ARE FOREVER AND ALWAYS IN MY HEART
(((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))
KJ and Julie my thoughts are with you. Never let anyone tell you how to mourn. We all do it in different ways and it takes us each a different amount of time. My father committed suicide in 1986. My heart breaks for the long journey you have ahead of you. I promise you that it will get easier. Allow yourself to be angry and sad and scared and lonely and any other emotion that you feel at any moment. The true victims of suicide are the ones who remain behind. Allow yourself to gain strength and compassion from your tragedies.
I know KJ what the loss of a friend means. Last year I lost two great colleagues due to suicide. One a woman the other a male. None of us had a clue that they were going through tough medical problems that left them with deep emotional scars. We were all friends at work. I got along real well with them. Just like in other professions, the nursing profession is a hard place to work in, there is a lot of back-stabbing and jealousy going on . So it is hard to find individuals who you can actually get along with. These individuals also gave a lot to their patients.
They were funny, smart and caring individuals. I miss them both.
Marie
im sorry for your lost love ones. kim, julie and marie. i to lost a co worker and a friend that committing suicide. i knew both a long time. i need to forget the past.
If anyone else has stories they'd like to share, or memories they'd like to share, or anything like that- please feel free to add...
x0xx0 Kim
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K.J.
im sorry to hear of the lost of your good friend trev, i too lost a friend, a love , the man i was to marry Jan 22 2005, only he committed suicide Dec. 27, 2004, this past year was so very hard... and being alone over the holidays was even harder... i know the pain you feel my dear. we wonder why, what went wrong, i will also never know why Tony left me... i will always love. and never never forget him, i have no notes only a police officer words of tony's last words ... that he loved me and for me never to forget that... his last words.. he loved me... theres not a day that goes by that i dont think about him, wondering why??? why was i so blinded? why didnt i see the signs...why wasnt i good enough... and as some of you know already i was at a really low point in my life that i thought that sudicide was the only way.... im still here.. sometimes i wonder why?? all i know is that Tony took something away from me .. a man that excepted me, he was a caring man, a loving man, he just had problems, an illness... in his life, in his eyes, he just thought he wasn't good enough, strong enough.thought he was bad for every one, specialy me... sorry i keep rambling on ... but this was the man of my dreams, i loved him so much...i have had so many people tell me to get over it.. to let it go...to go on with life... well i am... but until they go thru this pain...this hurt... this thought of "why didnt i see this coming" "why wasnt i good enough" Why wasnt i stong enough" and i pray that none of you will, i know we cant stop things from happening, but i know now that sometime we need to be the listeners too , people say things happen for a reason!! some we will figure out.. some we wont... Suicide is one that we will never know why ???there will always be that question in the back of our mind... WHY????
K.J, i am sorry for your loss of a good friend... Trevor,
im here for you or anyone that just wants to ramble on like i have done.. i will promose you this... you will never hear the words "just get over it" come out of my mouth... cause i know with time, things will get better....Life will go on, but we will never forget....
julie
IN MEMORY:
ANTON DALE MARTIN
"TONY" (THE GREEK)
DEC. 17 1952 - DEC. 27 2004
TO MY LOVE ...
I MISS YOU
I LOVE YOU
UNTIL WE MEET AGAIN..
YOUR ARE FOREVER AND ALWAYS IN MY HEART
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(((((((((( HUGS ))))))))))
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KJ and Julie my thoughts are with you. Never let anyone tell you how to mourn. We all do it in different ways and it takes us each a different amount of time. My father committed suicide in 1986. My heart breaks for the long journey you have ahead of you. I promise you that it will get easier. Allow yourself to be angry and sad and scared and lonely and any other emotion that you feel at any moment. The true victims of suicide are the ones who remain behind. Allow yourself to gain strength and compassion from your tragedies.
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I know KJ what the loss of a friend means. Last year I lost two great colleagues due to suicide. One a woman the other a male. None of us had a clue that they were going through tough medical problems that left them with deep emotional scars. We were all friends at work. I got along real well with them. Just like in other professions, the nursing profession is a hard place to work in, there is a lot of back-stabbing and jealousy going on . So it is hard to find individuals who you can actually get along with. These individuals also gave a lot to their patients.
They were funny, smart and caring individuals. I miss them both.
Marie
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im sorry for your lost love ones. kim, julie and marie. i to lost a co worker and a friend that committing suicide. i knew both a long time. i need to forget the past.
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