Question:
Hi everyone. This may be a silly question, but I am just trying to gather some information. I'm 3 weeks into my breakup and I'm thinking I want to put myself back out on the market. I had tried Match some years back (that's where I met my ex), and I've watched many a commercial for eHarmony. I am just curious if anyone has used eHarmony and if they had success?
Also, in terms of p and dating, do you think it would be better to hide the p until something starts to develop, or be up front and honest right away?
Just looking for some of your thoughts.
Thanks!
Michele
thats a wonderful way to meet people. who has the time to play games ayways and how unconfortable to have to go looking ,yuck..
good luck to you.
my thoughts on your p. well they say never talk about med. problems on first dates . but if it comes up why not if they dont like it, run now good go befor you invest any time . lol
There are a lot of dating site, but my experiance is that Yahoo singles, and match are the ones with the most members. If you are a liberial there is an actout for love site powered bythe cupid engine I like becuase instead of paying a monthly fee, you pay $20 for the ablity to email 10 people.
All the sites have free memberships that alow you to "wink" at another member. This tells them you are intersted, but doesw not allow any other contact.
If you are a thin, good looking female, you will get flooded with contacts. Otherwise be prepaired for a lot of rejection. People onthese sites are sooo pickey. I write about 60 or 80 emails to get one first date, and three or four first dates to find a releationship thjat goes beyond that. If someon eis not intersted, they normaly just don't reply. I get a thanks, but no thanks from andout 1 in 15 emails, the other 14, I just never hear from, and I write nice long emails.
In 2 1/2 years, I have had two releationships, one ended when the other peoson went back to her ex, the other when she selected soneone else.
It is nice because you know the other person is looking, and about your age, and that you have somthing in common. But when people search and find 200 people in their area, and their age, they tend to get real picky.
Everyone is looking for someone 5 years younger, and 10lb lighter than themselves.
Some women complain they get flooded with 100s of winks, but want email, a year later they are still available, and you wonder what they are looking for.
Do it, it can work, but be prepeaired for a lot of rejection; just don't take the rejection personaly.
Dennis
Thank God I am married. If I were single...it would scare me to death...HOWEVER......my best friend had really good luck with the online dating. She never gave them her home phone number...just work...and she always met them at places in her own car. I think that is the safest way until you get to know them better. Good Luck!!!
Online dating opens up alot of trouble with dishonesty and deception.
when you finally meet the person one side or the other is disappointed.
You are not quite what they expected.
The person thought that a few whites lies or leaving out something important would not hurt anything.
If they lie at the beginning what does it say about the individual.
In my experiences, the person tries to be online someone they wish they could be.
All I ever wanted was them to be themselves and honest.
As of today, I came across at least 10 different guys so far.
None of them were totally honest.
My advice to you be yourself .
Tell the person about your P right from the start.
If they do not like you for you.
you do not need them anyway.
I hope you the best of luck on your search for the perfect match.
good luck my friend
Kaylie:)
Michele,
I wish you the best of luck with finding someone. I have to say that I met my love on-line. Actually on this site. Neither one of us were even looking for it. Sometimes love just seems to find you. We actually started as being friends and the rest just sort of happened. I don't think I could be any happier. I hope you find someone as wonderful as I did.
Polly
Michele,
I have to say that I met my love on-line. Actually on this site. Neither one of us were even looking for it.
This sounds like my own story. I met my love online several years ago and we are now happily married. I don't have personal experience with sites like Eharmony, but want to wish you all the best whichever way you wanna go. :)
its been 8 months since my break-up. Im thinking its time i actually open myself to the possiblity of meeting new people as well.
hmmmm... where to start....
Thanks for all the nice responses. Internet dating can be so exhausting... and it can be scary too. There are lot of whack jobs out there... both male and female, and people can be so deceptive. That's what appeals to me about eHarmony, because it's expensive and it matches you with people that are similar in likes and dislikes and compatibility, and if people are willing to pay that kind of money, they're probably a lot more honest and real than some of the people on the free sites. I had tried the internet dating thing a few years back and met some very strange people, but then I met my ex and we were together two and a half years. I thought he was the one, but I learned three weeks ago that he wasnt. Oh well... pick myself up and try again, right?
Also, in terms of p and dating, do you think it would be better to hide the p until something starts to develop, or be up front and honest right away?
Just looking for some of your thoughts.
Thanks!
Michele
Answers:
thats a wonderful way to meet people. who has the time to play games ayways and how unconfortable to have to go looking ,yuck..
good luck to you.
my thoughts on your p. well they say never talk about med. problems on first dates . but if it comes up why not if they dont like it, run now good go befor you invest any time . lol
Answers:
There are a lot of dating site, but my experiance is that Yahoo singles, and match are the ones with the most members. If you are a liberial there is an actout for love site powered bythe cupid engine I like becuase instead of paying a monthly fee, you pay $20 for the ablity to email 10 people.
All the sites have free memberships that alow you to "wink" at another member. This tells them you are intersted, but doesw not allow any other contact.
If you are a thin, good looking female, you will get flooded with contacts. Otherwise be prepaired for a lot of rejection. People onthese sites are sooo pickey. I write about 60 or 80 emails to get one first date, and three or four first dates to find a releationship thjat goes beyond that. If someon eis not intersted, they normaly just don't reply. I get a thanks, but no thanks from andout 1 in 15 emails, the other 14, I just never hear from, and I write nice long emails.
In 2 1/2 years, I have had two releationships, one ended when the other peoson went back to her ex, the other when she selected soneone else.
It is nice because you know the other person is looking, and about your age, and that you have somthing in common. But when people search and find 200 people in their area, and their age, they tend to get real picky.
Everyone is looking for someone 5 years younger, and 10lb lighter than themselves.
Some women complain they get flooded with 100s of winks, but want email, a year later they are still available, and you wonder what they are looking for.
Do it, it can work, but be prepeaired for a lot of rejection; just don't take the rejection personaly.
Dennis
Answers:
Thank God I am married. If I were single...it would scare me to death...HOWEVER......my best friend had really good luck with the online dating. She never gave them her home phone number...just work...and she always met them at places in her own car. I think that is the safest way until you get to know them better. Good Luck!!!
Answers:
Online dating opens up alot of trouble with dishonesty and deception.
when you finally meet the person one side or the other is disappointed.
You are not quite what they expected.
The person thought that a few whites lies or leaving out something important would not hurt anything.
If they lie at the beginning what does it say about the individual.
In my experiences, the person tries to be online someone they wish they could be.
All I ever wanted was them to be themselves and honest.
As of today, I came across at least 10 different guys so far.
None of them were totally honest.
My advice to you be yourself .
Tell the person about your P right from the start.
If they do not like you for you.
you do not need them anyway.
I hope you the best of luck on your search for the perfect match.
good luck my friend
Kaylie:)
Answers:
Michele,
I wish you the best of luck with finding someone. I have to say that I met my love on-line. Actually on this site. Neither one of us were even looking for it. Sometimes love just seems to find you. We actually started as being friends and the rest just sort of happened. I don't think I could be any happier. I hope you find someone as wonderful as I did.
Polly
Answers:
Michele,
I have to say that I met my love on-line. Actually on this site. Neither one of us were even looking for it.
This sounds like my own story. I met my love online several years ago and we are now happily married. I don't have personal experience with sites like Eharmony, but want to wish you all the best whichever way you wanna go. :)
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its been 8 months since my break-up. Im thinking its time i actually open myself to the possiblity of meeting new people as well.
hmmmm... where to start....
Answers:
Thanks for all the nice responses. Internet dating can be so exhausting... and it can be scary too. There are lot of whack jobs out there... both male and female, and people can be so deceptive. That's what appeals to me about eHarmony, because it's expensive and it matches you with people that are similar in likes and dislikes and compatibility, and if people are willing to pay that kind of money, they're probably a lot more honest and real than some of the people on the free sites. I had tried the internet dating thing a few years back and met some very strange people, but then I met my ex and we were together two and a half years. I thought he was the one, but I learned three weeks ago that he wasnt. Oh well... pick myself up and try again, right?
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