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Alright if this affends anyone i apoligize...sometimes i stress so much over my p and just get angry at everyone even if they look at me funny or ask me what it is in a nice way...i just feel like punchin them in there face! is this normal? seriously..like i'll be on the "skins"teams when im playing basketball and get some horrible looks...and i get soooo pissed...i just want to punch em and say to them..."step into my shoes for just one day...i dare you..no i double dare you...you bastard" DAMN THIS DISEASE!! i guess i just need to count my blessings and pray cuz thats the only thing that keeps me going that and the occasional drink
Hi,
It's ok. You're allowed your feelings. As long as you don't act on that anger you should be alright. If you think that you might lose it and lash out, then it might be a good idea to let a medical professional know so you can get some help.
Venting is a good outlet.
During the Christmas season, I got daring and went shopping at the mall, a woman who was much older than me almost pushed me over grumbling " could you possibly walk any slower " geesh, I was so upset, I was at a loss for words and got in the car and cried.
After I thought about I figured she was the one with the problem not me, she didn't understand. People who don't suffer from this disease have a hard time understanding.
I think this disease can make us full of all types of emotions, anger being one of them. Please don't use alcohol as a crutch tho. k. Everything in moderation.
What are you doing for treatment? I noticed that you posted regarding lights.
Hang in there,
Karen
Luke,
Anger, depression, and many other emotions are a very real part of this disease. As long as you deal with them in a healthy way, you're doing fine. :) Take out your aggression on the basketball court (not by punching anyone out though, please!...lol). If you need to punch something, find a punching bag or a pillow. Vent away here....we all get it! Find a relaxation technique that works for you (yoga, meditation, just listening to music.) And if it gets overwhelming, take Karen's advice and seek professional help.
Hang in there....it gets better. :) :)
I always find you dont have to go far to find someone worse off than yourself.
Also I try and focus on other things - there's a lot more to me than my skin and the people who really matter see that and those who dont matter - well I dont care to be honest. I figure for all I know this could be my last day on earth and I'm not going to spend it worrying about what other people think of my skin. Maybe after 30 years of having this condition ( I refuse to call it a disease) and having grown up with it and have never experienced clear skin I just accept it and dont know any different; I've always thought it must be worse to have this later in life when you already know what life without it is like. I hope you feel better soon and you've done the best thing sharing your feelings here and not acting on your anger. Hang in there, there will be good times as well as bad.
x
Stace
there's so much that people don't understand and never could.
it's always frustrating that some people don't even try though.
i'm glad you feel comfortable coming here to vent, because it's important that we realize that we're not alone. it makes the burden easier to carry when it's shared :)
Writing down your feelings daily in a joural might help. I find that I get angry too and I think no one understands my pain. Pouring out my feelings on paper seems to allow me to get past those feelings of anger. Also I try to go help someone else when I get to feeling too sorry for my self I volunteer with older people who could use the extra hand or just someone to talk to. Since you like basketball so much maybe you could look into volunteering some time at your local boys club, or big brothers program. Anyway you decide to handle it turn it into something positive and you'll be fine
Patty
Some days are very emotionally painful for me as well. Over the past few years my P has been pretty mild. A patch here or there, tiny little spots of hyper pigmentation, and small scalp flair ups. That was until this year... it's now a completely different story! As the years go by the worse my P gets. I have spent years trying to hide it from people. I've tried make up on my body, waring long clothes to hide it, and tanning. I've been so ashamed! I've tried to keep it a secret from everyone in my life because it's just so disgusting! That way of thinking has gotten me no where so I'm now taking proactive steps to change the way I feel about myself. My boyfriend has been very influencial in my acceptance of this condition. If someone else can accept it and still love me then why can't I? I cannot stress enough how important this forum has been for me as well. When I start feeling sorry for myself I just read over some of these posts and it helps keep things in prespective. Everyone here knows what you're dealing with, which means alot when you feel so alone. I have found myself looking in the mirror in tears and I have to shake myself out of it and think, "Shame on me... there are people out there that are much more ill than I am"! I WILL NOT LET THIS CONDITION BREAK ME!
Sorry... sometimes I get a little long winded.
caraleigh
Yes, most of us have our moments when we'd like to punch something. Just be sure it's something that won't get you into trouble, lol. This disease sucks. There are ways to deal with our emotions. Sharing your feelings here with people who totally understand is one of them.
What type of treatments are you trying?
I know where you're coming from with being on the skins team. I tried hard to get on shirts so no one would have to see my p on my back and stomach. And I went to an all guys school so they could be prety ignorant about things. In college it gets a lot easier. People are a lot more mature since they have to focus on their jobs now.
Alright if this affends anyone i apoligize...sometimes i stress so much over my p and just get angry at everyone even if they look at me funny or ask me what it is in a nice way...i just feel like punchin them in there face! is this normal? seriously..like i'll be on the "skins"teams when im playing basketball and get some horrible looks...and i get soooo pissed...i just want to punch em and say to them..."step into my shoes for just one day...i dare you..no i double dare you...you bastard" DAMN THIS DISEASE!! i guess i just need to count my blessings and pray cuz thats the only thing that keeps me going that and the occasional drink
i kind of know how you feel, although i'm always on the "shirts" team. there's a few people i'd like to punch in the face, but they aren't worth it. and i usually go straight for the triple dog dare...........
you've already gotten alot of excellent words of wisdom here thus far....
just wanted to add mine in as well as far as trying your best to keep the head up.
It totally sucks to have p, we all know it. Thank goodness we have the boards here to be able to vent. As Patty put it earlier, it does help to put it down on paper or just exactly what you did...vent to us here on the boards...we all know where you are coming from and it means so much at least to me that I have this "family" to vent to....don't ever feel like you are offending anyone here...that is exactly what we are here for! :)
At least you are getting out there and playing basketball (a good stress reliever) and give 'em hell! LOL
Don't worry Luke, you'll always have us here on the boards! :p
aloha,
Abby
1 Attachment(s) It is ok to vent.
I rant and rave all the time about the dang P.
That is what we are here for.
You are not alone.
There are alot of great and wonderful people of this website with alot of wisdom.
When I first came on here I was a mess.
They helped me alot especially knowing that you are not alone.
It is healthy to let your frustrations out as long as you do not get yourself into trouble.
I got my daddy's punching bag at my house and known to go a couple of rounds on it a time or two.
catch you around.
hugs
kaylie
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Hi,
It's ok. You're allowed your feelings. As long as you don't act on that anger you should be alright. If you think that you might lose it and lash out, then it might be a good idea to let a medical professional know so you can get some help.
Venting is a good outlet.
During the Christmas season, I got daring and went shopping at the mall, a woman who was much older than me almost pushed me over grumbling " could you possibly walk any slower " geesh, I was so upset, I was at a loss for words and got in the car and cried.
After I thought about I figured she was the one with the problem not me, she didn't understand. People who don't suffer from this disease have a hard time understanding.
I think this disease can make us full of all types of emotions, anger being one of them. Please don't use alcohol as a crutch tho. k. Everything in moderation.
What are you doing for treatment? I noticed that you posted regarding lights.
Hang in there,
Karen
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Luke,
Anger, depression, and many other emotions are a very real part of this disease. As long as you deal with them in a healthy way, you're doing fine. :) Take out your aggression on the basketball court (not by punching anyone out though, please!...lol). If you need to punch something, find a punching bag or a pillow. Vent away here....we all get it! Find a relaxation technique that works for you (yoga, meditation, just listening to music.) And if it gets overwhelming, take Karen's advice and seek professional help.
Hang in there....it gets better. :) :)
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I always find you dont have to go far to find someone worse off than yourself.
Also I try and focus on other things - there's a lot more to me than my skin and the people who really matter see that and those who dont matter - well I dont care to be honest. I figure for all I know this could be my last day on earth and I'm not going to spend it worrying about what other people think of my skin. Maybe after 30 years of having this condition ( I refuse to call it a disease) and having grown up with it and have never experienced clear skin I just accept it and dont know any different; I've always thought it must be worse to have this later in life when you already know what life without it is like. I hope you feel better soon and you've done the best thing sharing your feelings here and not acting on your anger. Hang in there, there will be good times as well as bad.
x
Stace
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there's so much that people don't understand and never could.
it's always frustrating that some people don't even try though.
i'm glad you feel comfortable coming here to vent, because it's important that we realize that we're not alone. it makes the burden easier to carry when it's shared :)
Answers:
Writing down your feelings daily in a joural might help. I find that I get angry too and I think no one understands my pain. Pouring out my feelings on paper seems to allow me to get past those feelings of anger. Also I try to go help someone else when I get to feeling too sorry for my self I volunteer with older people who could use the extra hand or just someone to talk to. Since you like basketball so much maybe you could look into volunteering some time at your local boys club, or big brothers program. Anyway you decide to handle it turn it into something positive and you'll be fine
Patty
Answers:
Some days are very emotionally painful for me as well. Over the past few years my P has been pretty mild. A patch here or there, tiny little spots of hyper pigmentation, and small scalp flair ups. That was until this year... it's now a completely different story! As the years go by the worse my P gets. I have spent years trying to hide it from people. I've tried make up on my body, waring long clothes to hide it, and tanning. I've been so ashamed! I've tried to keep it a secret from everyone in my life because it's just so disgusting! That way of thinking has gotten me no where so I'm now taking proactive steps to change the way I feel about myself. My boyfriend has been very influencial in my acceptance of this condition. If someone else can accept it and still love me then why can't I? I cannot stress enough how important this forum has been for me as well. When I start feeling sorry for myself I just read over some of these posts and it helps keep things in prespective. Everyone here knows what you're dealing with, which means alot when you feel so alone. I have found myself looking in the mirror in tears and I have to shake myself out of it and think, "Shame on me... there are people out there that are much more ill than I am"! I WILL NOT LET THIS CONDITION BREAK ME!
Sorry... sometimes I get a little long winded.
caraleigh
Answers:
Yes, most of us have our moments when we'd like to punch something. Just be sure it's something that won't get you into trouble, lol. This disease sucks. There are ways to deal with our emotions. Sharing your feelings here with people who totally understand is one of them.
What type of treatments are you trying?
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I know where you're coming from with being on the skins team. I tried hard to get on shirts so no one would have to see my p on my back and stomach. And I went to an all guys school so they could be prety ignorant about things. In college it gets a lot easier. People are a lot more mature since they have to focus on their jobs now.
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Alright if this affends anyone i apoligize...sometimes i stress so much over my p and just get angry at everyone even if they look at me funny or ask me what it is in a nice way...i just feel like punchin them in there face! is this normal? seriously..like i'll be on the "skins"teams when im playing basketball and get some horrible looks...and i get soooo pissed...i just want to punch em and say to them..."step into my shoes for just one day...i dare you..no i double dare you...you bastard" DAMN THIS DISEASE!! i guess i just need to count my blessings and pray cuz thats the only thing that keeps me going that and the occasional drink
i kind of know how you feel, although i'm always on the "shirts" team. there's a few people i'd like to punch in the face, but they aren't worth it. and i usually go straight for the triple dog dare...........
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you've already gotten alot of excellent words of wisdom here thus far....
just wanted to add mine in as well as far as trying your best to keep the head up.
It totally sucks to have p, we all know it. Thank goodness we have the boards here to be able to vent. As Patty put it earlier, it does help to put it down on paper or just exactly what you did...vent to us here on the boards...we all know where you are coming from and it means so much at least to me that I have this "family" to vent to....don't ever feel like you are offending anyone here...that is exactly what we are here for! :)
At least you are getting out there and playing basketball (a good stress reliever) and give 'em hell! LOL
Don't worry Luke, you'll always have us here on the boards! :p
aloha,
Abby
Answers:
1 Attachment(s) It is ok to vent.
I rant and rave all the time about the dang P.
That is what we are here for.
You are not alone.
There are alot of great and wonderful people of this website with alot of wisdom.
When I first came on here I was a mess.
They helped me alot especially knowing that you are not alone.
It is healthy to let your frustrations out as long as you do not get yourself into trouble.
I got my daddy's punching bag at my house and known to go a couple of rounds on it a time or two.
catch you around.
hugs
kaylie
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