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I am so sick of the recent crimes against children that has been in the news lately. With spring and summer coming on the kids will be outside more and tend to want to be more independent as they get older. They tend to roam around the neighborhoods and parks more. I am not paranoid but I don't think they are very safe. Sometimes, even inside their homes.
Without being to overprotective, please keep a closer watch on you precious little one.
Please check you local agencies for the sex offenders that live in your area. I have never heard of these people being rehabilitated. Your local officials will probably a more recent list, so check both.
http://www.fbi.gov/hq/cid/cac/registry.htm
Granny, I have an 11-year old daughter and I will freely admit to being paranoid -- and her dad's even worse.
Was VERY happy to see reported on the news this week that our County Sheriff's Dept. has been zealously checking up on registered sex offenders here, and will continue to.
I'm only 40, but MY, how times have changed since I was her age!
Yes, Granny, very good advice. In fact most towns now have a website we can go to that shows where these ppl live and exactly what their crime was. When I was looking for my daughters condo I went to that website and plugged in the zip code and it pulled up a clean area. But with some of the places we had looked at prior to this one, there were as many as 20!!!
If you have little kids, even if you are only looking to rent, find out how to go to the registored sex offender site in your state and see who your neighbors are going to be.
Thanks for the links to the website, great information if you have children.
Yea, seedoubleyou, I'm 46, and I remember getting to run free in my neighborhood when I was little too. But we can't fool ourselves, there were creeps around when we were little too. They were just more sneaky and we didn't have computors and accountability in our court systems like now. I can think of two occassions when an adult tried to get away with something with me b4 I was 10 or 12. And one of them was my 4th grade teacher.
These kinds of ppl have always been amoung us.
Very true. My cousin was molested when we were elementary school age, by a teenage boy not much older than us.
Still, I think the incidence is undeniably higher these days. It just seems like neighborhoods, in general, are different, somehow. Most of us don't seem to "stay put" in one place for very long, or interact with our neighbors much. At least, that's my perception, anyway.
There is a billboard in our town that states that 1 in every 5 children on a computer is being solicited sexually. We need to keep an eye on our children inside and out.
Annie
We are given the gift of our children, we must protect them and teach them to survive and contribute to society. We are not here to be their buddies and pals. It is not always a fun or popular job. They may really hate us for demamding to know where they are at all times. I can live with that, thankfully that way so can our children.
A MEAN MOTHER
by
Rev. Lottie Appleman
A MEAN MOTHER never allows candy or sweets to take the place of a well balanced meal.
A MEAN MOTHER insists on knowing where her Children are at all times, who their friends are, and what they do.
A MEAN MOTHER breaks the Child Labor Law by making her Children work - washing dishes, making beds, learning to cook, and doing other cruel and unpleasant chores.
A MEAN MOTHER makes life miserable for her Offspring by insisting they always tell the truth.
A MEAN MOTHER produces Teen Agers who are wiser and more sensible.
A MEAN MOTHER can smile with secret delight and pride when she hears her own Grandchildren call their Parents "mean."
What the world needs now are MORE MEAN MOTHERS - and fathers!
Granny, if your post prevents one child from being hurt, you have done a wonderful service!! Be cautious everyone... And thank you, Granny.
With our church, if we have any dealings at all with children, we go through a "Protecting God's Children" Program. I mean, that doesn't guarantee that a child won't be hurt by someone. But, we should all be aware that this is not always a wonderful world...
Blessings,
Joe
Yes Joe ours is called the Safe Sanctuary program- I helped to develope it for our UCC Conference. Not popular but necessary-
Guess what---I WAS A MEAN MOTHER :)
I would make a bet that I know where my sons are right now and they ore 36-37. :p ;)
There is a lot of info on the FBI site http://www.fbi.gov/ A lot about protecting kids on the internet and finding missing people.
We had security doors and locks put on our homes and people laughed at us-saying, nothing ever happens here. I told them that when something does happen--I don't want it happening to me. It is a quiet neighborhood but this little town is growing and people from eveywhere are moving in for the small town life. In the 5 houses in out cul-de-sac, 4 homes have changed owners in the three years that we have lived here.
Times have changed so much. My older brother and I did so much stuff that would never be allowed today. We would hop on our bikes and ride miles away from home. OK, so we did live out in the country in Indiana, but we would stay out for 5 or 6 hours and it was no big deal. We ran around in the woods, armed with pellet guns or bottle rockets and we always had a pocket knife. We had so much fun. We would come home tired, dirty, and hungry. One evening we came home all muddy, and my dad was kinda mad at us for getting so filthy. He made us strip down to our underwear and stand still while he took the garden hose to us. That water was so cold, LOL. It's a shame that things can't be that simple these days. I think back on those times and it feels good.
Scott
Granny,
I still am a Mean Mother!
Our next door neighbors were teachers, friendly but pretty much kept to themselves blah..blah...blah... So one day about 2 1/2 years ago we are getting ready for the day and all of a sudden dh says, "Nancy come look outside!" There were about 10 unmarked cars and trucks and people jumping out with guns and one of those things you use to knock down doors. No one was allowed to leave the neighborhood for 2 hours without being searched. I watched as the FBI load computers, servers and boxes of pictures in their cars. Now Mr. Nice Guy is serving time in the federal pen for possessing and distributing kiddie porn...eeewwww....
Then this past fall a new family moves into the rental house two doors down and I'm at the grocery store one day and run into a friend who say, "I've been meaning to call you. You have a new sex offender living 2 doors down, I saw it on the St. Louis county registry" so I go home and look it up and sure enough the guy has been convicted of Statutory sodomy and 1st degree child molestation.
We have 25 homes in our neighborhood which is in what is considered a pretty nice middle class area so how did I get so lucky to have 2 freaks within 3 houses of each other? At least I know who the freaks are. We are moving next weekend and there are no registered sex offenders in our new neighborhood, not that it will keep us safer but at least I don't have to look at them every damn day. UGH!
Nancy
Granny,
Great advice!
Due to the recent events in Florida it is a good idea to know who or what could be lurking in your area. As a victim of an abusive childhood I am the epitomy of a paranoid parent. I have visited and re-visited my state website for info about sex-offenders in my neighborhood. BUT the important thing to keep in mind is that some child predators are drifters or have never been caught. In that case they would not be listed in any database.
The first step in prevention of sex crimes against your child(ren) is EDUCATION!
Children are aware at a very young age the difference between right and wrong...the same goes with right and wrong touching. I appeal to anyone who reads this forum to EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN! ADvise them that an offender will use any tactic necessary to keep from being "told on". Give them different options of people that they can turn to if they are afraid to tell you or your spouse (i.e. a teacher, a grandparent, a pastor, etc.) Sometimes offenders are in our own families and threaten the welfare of the people that the child loves...even themself. I child can love their offender...not because of the inappropriate relationship but because children thrive on love and attention. The guilt of getting the offender in "trouble" could be enough to persuade them to keep their mouths shut. Talk to your children, educate them...that is the best way to keep them safe.
Advice from someone who knows...take it for what it's worth...
Kay
Oh... I also forgot to mention that with our Parish's "Protecting God's Children" Program, there is also a criminal background check that goes with it, directly linking any improprieties to law enforcement agencies.
A very good idea.
Joe
Thanks so much Granny...I just checked my town out...There are 3 of them...One picture though...
My daughter lives in the next town and there are 33 of them...eek!!!
I am sending her this url...Scary...
Without being to overprotective, please keep a closer watch on you precious little one.
Please check you local agencies for the sex offenders that live in your area. I have never heard of these people being rehabilitated. Your local officials will probably a more recent list, so check both.
http://www.fbi.gov/hq/cid/cac/registry.htm
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Granny, I have an 11-year old daughter and I will freely admit to being paranoid -- and her dad's even worse.
Was VERY happy to see reported on the news this week that our County Sheriff's Dept. has been zealously checking up on registered sex offenders here, and will continue to.
I'm only 40, but MY, how times have changed since I was her age!
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Yes, Granny, very good advice. In fact most towns now have a website we can go to that shows where these ppl live and exactly what their crime was. When I was looking for my daughters condo I went to that website and plugged in the zip code and it pulled up a clean area. But with some of the places we had looked at prior to this one, there were as many as 20!!!
If you have little kids, even if you are only looking to rent, find out how to go to the registored sex offender site in your state and see who your neighbors are going to be.
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Thanks for the links to the website, great information if you have children.
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Yea, seedoubleyou, I'm 46, and I remember getting to run free in my neighborhood when I was little too. But we can't fool ourselves, there were creeps around when we were little too. They were just more sneaky and we didn't have computors and accountability in our court systems like now. I can think of two occassions when an adult tried to get away with something with me b4 I was 10 or 12. And one of them was my 4th grade teacher.
These kinds of ppl have always been amoung us.
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Very true. My cousin was molested when we were elementary school age, by a teenage boy not much older than us.
Still, I think the incidence is undeniably higher these days. It just seems like neighborhoods, in general, are different, somehow. Most of us don't seem to "stay put" in one place for very long, or interact with our neighbors much. At least, that's my perception, anyway.
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There is a billboard in our town that states that 1 in every 5 children on a computer is being solicited sexually. We need to keep an eye on our children inside and out.
Annie
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We are given the gift of our children, we must protect them and teach them to survive and contribute to society. We are not here to be their buddies and pals. It is not always a fun or popular job. They may really hate us for demamding to know where they are at all times. I can live with that, thankfully that way so can our children.
A MEAN MOTHER
by
Rev. Lottie Appleman
A MEAN MOTHER never allows candy or sweets to take the place of a well balanced meal.
A MEAN MOTHER insists on knowing where her Children are at all times, who their friends are, and what they do.
A MEAN MOTHER breaks the Child Labor Law by making her Children work - washing dishes, making beds, learning to cook, and doing other cruel and unpleasant chores.
A MEAN MOTHER makes life miserable for her Offspring by insisting they always tell the truth.
A MEAN MOTHER produces Teen Agers who are wiser and more sensible.
A MEAN MOTHER can smile with secret delight and pride when she hears her own Grandchildren call their Parents "mean."
What the world needs now are MORE MEAN MOTHERS - and fathers!
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Granny, if your post prevents one child from being hurt, you have done a wonderful service!! Be cautious everyone... And thank you, Granny.
With our church, if we have any dealings at all with children, we go through a "Protecting God's Children" Program. I mean, that doesn't guarantee that a child won't be hurt by someone. But, we should all be aware that this is not always a wonderful world...
Blessings,
Joe
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Yes Joe ours is called the Safe Sanctuary program- I helped to develope it for our UCC Conference. Not popular but necessary-
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Guess what---I WAS A MEAN MOTHER :)
I would make a bet that I know where my sons are right now and they ore 36-37. :p ;)
There is a lot of info on the FBI site http://www.fbi.gov/ A lot about protecting kids on the internet and finding missing people.
We had security doors and locks put on our homes and people laughed at us-saying, nothing ever happens here. I told them that when something does happen--I don't want it happening to me. It is a quiet neighborhood but this little town is growing and people from eveywhere are moving in for the small town life. In the 5 houses in out cul-de-sac, 4 homes have changed owners in the three years that we have lived here.
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Times have changed so much. My older brother and I did so much stuff that would never be allowed today. We would hop on our bikes and ride miles away from home. OK, so we did live out in the country in Indiana, but we would stay out for 5 or 6 hours and it was no big deal. We ran around in the woods, armed with pellet guns or bottle rockets and we always had a pocket knife. We had so much fun. We would come home tired, dirty, and hungry. One evening we came home all muddy, and my dad was kinda mad at us for getting so filthy. He made us strip down to our underwear and stand still while he took the garden hose to us. That water was so cold, LOL. It's a shame that things can't be that simple these days. I think back on those times and it feels good.
Scott
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Granny,
I still am a Mean Mother!
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Our next door neighbors were teachers, friendly but pretty much kept to themselves blah..blah...blah... So one day about 2 1/2 years ago we are getting ready for the day and all of a sudden dh says, "Nancy come look outside!" There were about 10 unmarked cars and trucks and people jumping out with guns and one of those things you use to knock down doors. No one was allowed to leave the neighborhood for 2 hours without being searched. I watched as the FBI load computers, servers and boxes of pictures in their cars. Now Mr. Nice Guy is serving time in the federal pen for possessing and distributing kiddie porn...eeewwww....
Then this past fall a new family moves into the rental house two doors down and I'm at the grocery store one day and run into a friend who say, "I've been meaning to call you. You have a new sex offender living 2 doors down, I saw it on the St. Louis county registry" so I go home and look it up and sure enough the guy has been convicted of Statutory sodomy and 1st degree child molestation.
We have 25 homes in our neighborhood which is in what is considered a pretty nice middle class area so how did I get so lucky to have 2 freaks within 3 houses of each other? At least I know who the freaks are. We are moving next weekend and there are no registered sex offenders in our new neighborhood, not that it will keep us safer but at least I don't have to look at them every damn day. UGH!
Nancy
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Granny,
Great advice!
Due to the recent events in Florida it is a good idea to know who or what could be lurking in your area. As a victim of an abusive childhood I am the epitomy of a paranoid parent. I have visited and re-visited my state website for info about sex-offenders in my neighborhood. BUT the important thing to keep in mind is that some child predators are drifters or have never been caught. In that case they would not be listed in any database.
The first step in prevention of sex crimes against your child(ren) is EDUCATION!
Children are aware at a very young age the difference between right and wrong...the same goes with right and wrong touching. I appeal to anyone who reads this forum to EDUCATE YOUR CHILDREN! ADvise them that an offender will use any tactic necessary to keep from being "told on". Give them different options of people that they can turn to if they are afraid to tell you or your spouse (i.e. a teacher, a grandparent, a pastor, etc.) Sometimes offenders are in our own families and threaten the welfare of the people that the child loves...even themself. I child can love their offender...not because of the inappropriate relationship but because children thrive on love and attention. The guilt of getting the offender in "trouble" could be enough to persuade them to keep their mouths shut. Talk to your children, educate them...that is the best way to keep them safe.
Advice from someone who knows...take it for what it's worth...
Kay
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Oh... I also forgot to mention that with our Parish's "Protecting God's Children" Program, there is also a criminal background check that goes with it, directly linking any improprieties to law enforcement agencies.
A very good idea.
Joe
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Thanks so much Granny...I just checked my town out...There are 3 of them...One picture though...
My daughter lives in the next town and there are 33 of them...eek!!!
I am sending her this url...Scary...
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