Question:
Not wishing to go into details, but sometimes when I look back at the past I don't much like the person I was in a period of my life. I can understand now why I behaved in certain ways, but I still find it unacceptable. How can we make peace with the person we were (and with bits we don't much like about ourselves that remain with us today) and move on? It serves no purpose to beat ourselves up about the past, I know, but I am not prepared to reinvent myself and try to become something that I am not. I hope this makes sense.
Dear At One
Can you accept that all of you has been part of the journey, have no regrets dear one there is only one failure and that is if we do not learn from our experience. You have obviously learnt from your past and this is enriching and beneficial.
So give yourself a big pat on the back and say well done you, we made the breakthroughs that we needed to make and now I am being reborn once again.
Forgive, accept and then let go so that the rebirth can truly come to be.
LETTING GO
Letting go does not mean that you stop caring,
it means I can't change someone else or the circumstances.
Letting go means you accept that you can't control the other person
Letting go is learning from natural consequences and coincidences
Letting go is ceasing to blame yourself and others
Letting go is not judgemental, it is allowing yourself and others
to just BE.
Letting go is to stop arranging other's outcomes, but to allow others to effect their own destinies.
Letting go is ceasing to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality in their own time and space.
Letting go is not denial, it is having an acceptance of that which is.
Letting go is not to accuse or argue but instead to search out your own issues and treat them with compassion.
Letting go is to stop adjusting everything to suit yourself, but to take each day as it comes.
Letting go is to cherish and love you unconditionally above all else.
Letting go is not to criticise anybody but to concentrate on becoming what you dream you can be and allowing others to so the same.
Letting go is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the present moment for that is all that there is.
Letting go is feeling safe and at peace in your own company. loneliness changes to aloneness.
Letting go of past hurts is a joy when you accept that those people knew not what they did.
Letting go means keeping the positive memories and transcending the negative ones.
Letting go is to have zero fear and to live life in a state of
everlasting bliss.
Kim Thomas©1998
Love beyond measure
Kim xx
Hi Sweety
Wise words from Kim. Like you I have parts of my past which I look back on and shiver and try not to think of the person I was, but then we all have parts of our pasts like that I think.
Part of my problem was that I was allowing someone to think and control me, I hate how I was and want to go back and tell people who knew me then that I am not really that person anymore but I know I can't.
The best thing I have found is forgiveness but it is harder when it is yourself you have to forgive! It will take a while to truely forgive myself but I know that I must do it to move on.
Hope this helps in a small way, if you want to chat PM me!
With love
Maria
Thank you both of you, for your caring support and wisdom [sm=hug.gif]
All we have to remember is everything is prefect in GODs domain and all has an important reason for being, each step, each stumble, two steps forward and one step back. All part of the elevation on the ladder and ascension to the heaven plane of the Kingdom of Love.
Love beyond measure
kim xx
Hi Siobhan,
I find these words of Mary Baker Eddy's very helpful:
We own no past, no future, we possess only now.
With love,
Judy
Hi Siobhan
You're right, it serves no purpose whatso ever to beat ourselves up about our past actions, so we need to forgive ourselves and move on. As a friend I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling this way [sm=hug.gif] and would recommend EFT to you as an effective technique to overcome nay negative emotion you are feeling, including guilt, shame, anger, etc..
You know you can PM me anytime if you want to talk more.
Sarah x
yes i agree that eft is great for letting go
gary craig once said that by not letting go is like one person taking a pill of poison and waiting for the other person to die.
wow
dez
Can I commend Gerald Jampowski's book 'Love is letting go of fear' It's short and to the point. In particular it suggests that forgiveness is "letting go of the idea that someone has harmed you". So, when you can look back at those times when you did stuff you didn't particularly like and realise that without it you wouldn't be who/where you are now, then you can let go of the idea that you harmed yourself and forgive yourself.
Hope that helps
All the best
Jonathan
Dear Siobhan:
As can so often the case, perhaps part of the answer may be in your statement...
perhaps accepting ALL of your negative potential (including that which you chose at one time to actualize) is required in order to have a real chance of accepting ALL of your positive potential (and freeing you to realize more of it). What if the path to wholeness and enlightenment means encountering and embracing, accepting & forgiving the worst of you. I've found that doing a guided visualization for this can be very powerful. I externalize either my past self or a part of me I've had revulsion for and relate to this part of me as a wayward son (since I'm male) whom I love dearly as his father but am worried and sad about. I watch as he goes off & does whatever it was I did in life, but with a sense of both sadness for him and anyone he's harming along with unconditional love for all concerned, with a deep hope that he will return to his senses (or find them for the first time) and return home to me, because I know I won't be complete without him. Basically I reenact the parable of the prodigal son, and at the end I integrate him back into myself, along with all the learning from those mistakes and a profound compassion for him and all who he negatively affected. Reintegrated, I imagine visiting the people (or their souls if they've passed on) and communicating my regret and making amends through a loving energy emanating from my heart to theirs. Then I integrate them into me also. If done with reverence this can be a very healing experience. I recommend you consider it along with all of the wonderful advice given above (I am also sold on meridian therapies, although I lean more toward Tapas Acupressure Technique and Be Set Free Fast. They all work great!) Cheers, -Alfred
Answers:
Dear At One
Can you accept that all of you has been part of the journey, have no regrets dear one there is only one failure and that is if we do not learn from our experience. You have obviously learnt from your past and this is enriching and beneficial.
So give yourself a big pat on the back and say well done you, we made the breakthroughs that we needed to make and now I am being reborn once again.
Forgive, accept and then let go so that the rebirth can truly come to be.
LETTING GO
Letting go does not mean that you stop caring,
it means I can't change someone else or the circumstances.
Letting go means you accept that you can't control the other person
Letting go is learning from natural consequences and coincidences
Letting go is ceasing to blame yourself and others
Letting go is not judgemental, it is allowing yourself and others
to just BE.
Letting go is to stop arranging other's outcomes, but to allow others to effect their own destinies.
Letting go is ceasing to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality in their own time and space.
Letting go is not denial, it is having an acceptance of that which is.
Letting go is not to accuse or argue but instead to search out your own issues and treat them with compassion.
Letting go is to stop adjusting everything to suit yourself, but to take each day as it comes.
Letting go is to cherish and love you unconditionally above all else.
Letting go is not to criticise anybody but to concentrate on becoming what you dream you can be and allowing others to so the same.
Letting go is not to regret the past but to grow and live for the present moment for that is all that there is.
Letting go is feeling safe and at peace in your own company. loneliness changes to aloneness.
Letting go of past hurts is a joy when you accept that those people knew not what they did.
Letting go means keeping the positive memories and transcending the negative ones.
Letting go is to have zero fear and to live life in a state of
everlasting bliss.
Kim Thomas©1998
Love beyond measure
Kim xx
Answers:
Hi Sweety
Wise words from Kim. Like you I have parts of my past which I look back on and shiver and try not to think of the person I was, but then we all have parts of our pasts like that I think.
Part of my problem was that I was allowing someone to think and control me, I hate how I was and want to go back and tell people who knew me then that I am not really that person anymore but I know I can't.
The best thing I have found is forgiveness but it is harder when it is yourself you have to forgive! It will take a while to truely forgive myself but I know that I must do it to move on.
Hope this helps in a small way, if you want to chat PM me!
With love
Maria
Answers:
Thank you both of you, for your caring support and wisdom [sm=hug.gif]
Answers:
All we have to remember is everything is prefect in GODs domain and all has an important reason for being, each step, each stumble, two steps forward and one step back. All part of the elevation on the ladder and ascension to the heaven plane of the Kingdom of Love.
Love beyond measure
kim xx
Answers:
Hi Siobhan,
I find these words of Mary Baker Eddy's very helpful:
We own no past, no future, we possess only now.
With love,
Judy
Answers:
Hi Siobhan
You're right, it serves no purpose whatso ever to beat ourselves up about our past actions, so we need to forgive ourselves and move on. As a friend I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling this way [sm=hug.gif] and would recommend EFT to you as an effective technique to overcome nay negative emotion you are feeling, including guilt, shame, anger, etc..
You know you can PM me anytime if you want to talk more.
Sarah x
Answers:
yes i agree that eft is great for letting go
gary craig once said that by not letting go is like one person taking a pill of poison and waiting for the other person to die.
wow
dez
Answers:
Can I commend Gerald Jampowski's book 'Love is letting go of fear' It's short and to the point. In particular it suggests that forgiveness is "letting go of the idea that someone has harmed you". So, when you can look back at those times when you did stuff you didn't particularly like and realise that without it you wouldn't be who/where you are now, then you can let go of the idea that you harmed yourself and forgive yourself.
Hope that helps
All the best
Jonathan
Answers:
Dear Siobhan:
As can so often the case, perhaps part of the answer may be in your statement...
perhaps accepting ALL of your negative potential (including that which you chose at one time to actualize) is required in order to have a real chance of accepting ALL of your positive potential (and freeing you to realize more of it). What if the path to wholeness and enlightenment means encountering and embracing, accepting & forgiving the worst of you. I've found that doing a guided visualization for this can be very powerful. I externalize either my past self or a part of me I've had revulsion for and relate to this part of me as a wayward son (since I'm male) whom I love dearly as his father but am worried and sad about. I watch as he goes off & does whatever it was I did in life, but with a sense of both sadness for him and anyone he's harming along with unconditional love for all concerned, with a deep hope that he will return to his senses (or find them for the first time) and return home to me, because I know I won't be complete without him. Basically I reenact the parable of the prodigal son, and at the end I integrate him back into myself, along with all the learning from those mistakes and a profound compassion for him and all who he negatively affected. Reintegrated, I imagine visiting the people (or their souls if they've passed on) and communicating my regret and making amends through a loving energy emanating from my heart to theirs. Then I integrate them into me also. If done with reverence this can be a very healing experience. I recommend you consider it along with all of the wonderful advice given above (I am also sold on meridian therapies, although I lean more toward Tapas Acupressure Technique and Be Set Free Fast. They all work great!) Cheers, -Alfred
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