Question:
There is lots of negative stuff going on at my workplace related to a job evaluation scheme which hs left people in all sorts of emotional states from shock, anger to depression. Although not adversely affected by the outcome I too am dismayed at what has happened and seem to have lost motivation for the job. This has spilled over into my personal life and I am finding it hard to motivate re looking after my emotional well being e.g affirmations , reiki , therapies are all things that I know would help but can't sem to get myself into it........my mind wanders when I try to self treat reiki or meditate or I can't seem to get round to doing it
Any tips would be much appreciated
Hi Soar
Sorry to hear that you are not feeling your usual self.
I think sometimes when we have a experienced something which has rocked our boat a little, we need time to get our head around things, and time for our mind to catch up with the emotions which we are feeling.
I think the way that we do this, is to concentrate on what is bothering us, which maybe is why you are finding it difficult to concentrate.
So why not try to accept, that just for the moment, your mind will wander, and some things will be more difficult than others. Accept that it is a temporary thing.
If you just accept things as just temporary and go with the flow, I am sure that you will learn a great deal.
Love
Lynn
Dear Soar
You are not the only one that is suffering from a lack of motivation at the moment.
Rest and eat well there is big planetary change coming up on the 8th November
hopefully the energy will clear after this and we will find renewed purpose.
blessings in abundance
Kim xx
Soar
first of all I am sorry to hear abpout what is happening in your work place and especially to you personally. Moments like these are quite soul destroying and cause us to activate all sorts of negative thinking patterns and allow our minds to wander away from what our plans and our "normal" life style may be.
remedies? Well some have already been mentioned above and it sounds as if you are using some already. Often it is a matter of using what we have and are used to but have lost interest for at this present time. I think the most important thing is to focus on yourself, on who you are right now and on your thoughts and emotions. Speak to yourself in a positive way and raise the positive enrgy within you to overcome the negative one that it's trying to distrurb you. Positive affirmation can be a beginning on this way; but you will need to spend time focussing on yourself.
The other thing is to make a list of all the things that make you so special. Include your skills, your presonality traits, your emotions. Then stick this list somewhere where you can see it as often as possible (it may be at home,but it may be at work too). look at that list and meditate on it. The purpose is to enhance at this de-motivating time the awareness of the goodness in you.
Something else you can try is to make a list of all the things you wish to do, whether at work or privately. Use that list as a check list of "to do things". At first it may seem a bit rigid but over a few days it will become part of yourself. Use it to remind you of what it is appropriate for you to do to be the person you want/wish/need to be and of the things that you want/wish/need to do.
Next, boost your self-confidence and self-esteem. Often people get de-motivated because of an emotional shock to any of such areas. Typical example is the old story that if someone criticises your work you tend to say"what's the point of doing it then?" Well, we know, don't we that there is much much point in doing those things anyhow. If nothing else to prove that person wrong. But more to the point, you need to keep on believing in yourself, in your abilities, in your personality and emotions. If you did it before, you can do it again! If you have been successful (in what ever so far) you can still be successful today!
Finally, give yourself a reality check. getting de-motivated at times is human! I actually joke on this because as you know being a life coach people say that I should never get demotivated. Well, that's rubbish. Even I can get de-motivated at times. And what I have mentioned above is some of the things I use with many of my clients and with myself first of all. So, give yourself a reality check, take an "emotional holiday" and give yourself time. Perhaps you have been working too hard, perhaps the tension of the assessment process has caused tension to arise within you, not just the work place. So it's time to relax, to take time off and to boost your emotional and thinking batteries. Above all Soar... love yourself. You are precious, you are unique and you are fantastic.
Well I hope this helps a bit. Take care.
Any tips would be much appreciated
Answers:
Hi Soar
Sorry to hear that you are not feeling your usual self.
I think sometimes when we have a experienced something which has rocked our boat a little, we need time to get our head around things, and time for our mind to catch up with the emotions which we are feeling.
I think the way that we do this, is to concentrate on what is bothering us, which maybe is why you are finding it difficult to concentrate.
So why not try to accept, that just for the moment, your mind will wander, and some things will be more difficult than others. Accept that it is a temporary thing.
If you just accept things as just temporary and go with the flow, I am sure that you will learn a great deal.
Love
Lynn
Answers:
Dear Soar
You are not the only one that is suffering from a lack of motivation at the moment.
Rest and eat well there is big planetary change coming up on the 8th November
hopefully the energy will clear after this and we will find renewed purpose.
blessings in abundance
Kim xx
Answers:
Soar
first of all I am sorry to hear abpout what is happening in your work place and especially to you personally. Moments like these are quite soul destroying and cause us to activate all sorts of negative thinking patterns and allow our minds to wander away from what our plans and our "normal" life style may be.
remedies? Well some have already been mentioned above and it sounds as if you are using some already. Often it is a matter of using what we have and are used to but have lost interest for at this present time. I think the most important thing is to focus on yourself, on who you are right now and on your thoughts and emotions. Speak to yourself in a positive way and raise the positive enrgy within you to overcome the negative one that it's trying to distrurb you. Positive affirmation can be a beginning on this way; but you will need to spend time focussing on yourself.
The other thing is to make a list of all the things that make you so special. Include your skills, your presonality traits, your emotions. Then stick this list somewhere where you can see it as often as possible (it may be at home,but it may be at work too). look at that list and meditate on it. The purpose is to enhance at this de-motivating time the awareness of the goodness in you.
Something else you can try is to make a list of all the things you wish to do, whether at work or privately. Use that list as a check list of "to do things". At first it may seem a bit rigid but over a few days it will become part of yourself. Use it to remind you of what it is appropriate for you to do to be the person you want/wish/need to be and of the things that you want/wish/need to do.
Next, boost your self-confidence and self-esteem. Often people get de-motivated because of an emotional shock to any of such areas. Typical example is the old story that if someone criticises your work you tend to say"what's the point of doing it then?" Well, we know, don't we that there is much much point in doing those things anyhow. If nothing else to prove that person wrong. But more to the point, you need to keep on believing in yourself, in your abilities, in your personality and emotions. If you did it before, you can do it again! If you have been successful (in what ever so far) you can still be successful today!
Finally, give yourself a reality check. getting de-motivated at times is human! I actually joke on this because as you know being a life coach people say that I should never get demotivated. Well, that's rubbish. Even I can get de-motivated at times. And what I have mentioned above is some of the things I use with many of my clients and with myself first of all. So, give yourself a reality check, take an "emotional holiday" and give yourself time. Perhaps you have been working too hard, perhaps the tension of the assessment process has caused tension to arise within you, not just the work place. So it's time to relax, to take time off and to boost your emotional and thinking batteries. Above all Soar... love yourself. You are precious, you are unique and you are fantastic.
Well I hope this helps a bit. Take care.
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