Question:
Hi All
I don't know whether i have done a foolish thing but i really went with my instincts and had done some soul searching and the answer kept coming up yes and now it all seems to have gone wrong!
OK that makes no sense! - I have recently split with my boyfriend but he is reluctant to let go and we are currently still meeting up but as friends. I had this feeling that i wanted to give him some Reiki and have thought long and hard about it and then offered to. I have only 'comeout' to him in terms of my beliefs and interest in alternative therapies since we split up.
He took me up on the offerand i gave him a treatment last night. It was quite an intense treatment for me as the healer and for him - lots of releasing, twitching etc. But afterwards instead of just leaving we ended up having a really intense talk and both got very upset. I feel that the treatment had opened the way for this somehow.
Now he is in more of mess than he was before and i feel worse and the sense of loss that i have has grown huge -much bigger than before.
I'm not sure how to handle it as the situation is so personal. Was this a really foolish thing to do even though it felt very right. Have i helped us both byopening wounds so they can heal? or made things worse. Should i stay away or offer more treatment?
I know many of these questions you can't answer but any advice would be appreciated.
Sunbeamx
I woudl say that you did the right thing by trusting in yourself which is fantastic and maybe it is just that you have released blocks which has allowed the emotion to flow - leaving a partner is similar to greaving - do you know to work with the Unconcious Mind to be comfortable? ;)
When I work with folk, or attune them to Reiki, I always like to keep myself centered, and grounded, and meditate on my intent. It is a thought that you way both of you perceive that you have a fantastic experience with some healing, however, perhaps you could both receive from someone else.
Sometimes, even as a healer we need time to balance after relationship. Letting free ourself can be a challenge. We do need to care for ourself as healers, and maybe your boundaries are a little blurred at the moment. If you like maybe we could all sendYOU some Reiki.
Jill
I would say yes. Sometimes Reiki can unblock things & allow for an emotional release. He may feel worse at the moment but it should get better - sometimes things have to get worse & break down before they can move forwards &improve. He was perhaps avoiding certain feelings etc, which the Reiki helped bring out. (Which is a positive thing in the longrun).
As for if you should carry on giving him Reiki, I think that's more of an issue of whether it would be a good idea for you two to share such a thing together - in terms of your time together etc, as opposed to if he should recieve any more Reiki or not. For the first one, only you can answer that, but as for him recieving Reiki or not, I'd say that it can only do good & that he would benefit from it.
At the end of the day, do what you feel is right. I don't think there really is such a thing as a "bad reaction" to Reiki, just temporary emotional/physical releases which are needed to play out in order for the healing process to continue.
Hope any of that helps :)
Love & Light
SS
x
Reiki is a conderful and powerful tool for facilitating emotional healing, it is hardly any wonder that the treatment and releasewas intense. You will know already about the healing crisis and how it gets worse sometimes before it gets better. Your ex probably has a lot to deal with and I knowyou wont want to cause him undue pain but you offered part of you and to channel energy through you, which is an unselfish act.. it may have done him more good than being treated by a stranger, cause the healing he needs concerns you.. don't feel bad for trying your best.. be glad you are strong enough to be able to do that.
Thank you for all your replies.
I feel better today than i did when i made the post and can fully undertand where you are all coming from. Thank you for your support and encouragement.
The emotional space between us seems to have grown since the treatment and although i have not spoken to him i know that this is true for him too. Which is why i think the sense of loss was all the greaterafter the treatment.
I think deep down i knew it wasn't a 'bad reaction' as such but after so much upset i needed to hear it from someone else!
Jill - many thanks for the suggestion about people sending me Reiki. If anyone has the time to do this it would be much appreciated.
Love and light
Sunbeamxx
I have decided to leave the siutation open with regard to more Reiki and see if he brings it up. If he doesn't then it feels right just to let it go.
Love, light and healing Sunbeam. All part of the process and good that you are both facing your feelings and processing them.
Love is the way........
Divine Love
I don't know whether i have done a foolish thing but i really went with my instincts and had done some soul searching and the answer kept coming up yes and now it all seems to have gone wrong!
OK that makes no sense! - I have recently split with my boyfriend but he is reluctant to let go and we are currently still meeting up but as friends. I had this feeling that i wanted to give him some Reiki and have thought long and hard about it and then offered to. I have only 'comeout' to him in terms of my beliefs and interest in alternative therapies since we split up.
He took me up on the offerand i gave him a treatment last night. It was quite an intense treatment for me as the healer and for him - lots of releasing, twitching etc. But afterwards instead of just leaving we ended up having a really intense talk and both got very upset. I feel that the treatment had opened the way for this somehow.
Now he is in more of mess than he was before and i feel worse and the sense of loss that i have has grown huge -much bigger than before.
I'm not sure how to handle it as the situation is so personal. Was this a really foolish thing to do even though it felt very right. Have i helped us both byopening wounds so they can heal? or made things worse. Should i stay away or offer more treatment?
I know many of these questions you can't answer but any advice would be appreciated.
Sunbeamx
Answers:
I woudl say that you did the right thing by trusting in yourself which is fantastic and maybe it is just that you have released blocks which has allowed the emotion to flow - leaving a partner is similar to greaving - do you know to work with the Unconcious Mind to be comfortable? ;)
Answers:
When I work with folk, or attune them to Reiki, I always like to keep myself centered, and grounded, and meditate on my intent. It is a thought that you way both of you perceive that you have a fantastic experience with some healing, however, perhaps you could both receive from someone else.
Sometimes, even as a healer we need time to balance after relationship. Letting free ourself can be a challenge. We do need to care for ourself as healers, and maybe your boundaries are a little blurred at the moment. If you like maybe we could all sendYOU some Reiki.
Jill
Answers:
I would say yes. Sometimes Reiki can unblock things & allow for an emotional release. He may feel worse at the moment but it should get better - sometimes things have to get worse & break down before they can move forwards &improve. He was perhaps avoiding certain feelings etc, which the Reiki helped bring out. (Which is a positive thing in the longrun).
As for if you should carry on giving him Reiki, I think that's more of an issue of whether it would be a good idea for you two to share such a thing together - in terms of your time together etc, as opposed to if he should recieve any more Reiki or not. For the first one, only you can answer that, but as for him recieving Reiki or not, I'd say that it can only do good & that he would benefit from it.
At the end of the day, do what you feel is right. I don't think there really is such a thing as a "bad reaction" to Reiki, just temporary emotional/physical releases which are needed to play out in order for the healing process to continue.
Hope any of that helps :)
Love & Light
SS
x
Answers:
Reiki is a conderful and powerful tool for facilitating emotional healing, it is hardly any wonder that the treatment and releasewas intense. You will know already about the healing crisis and how it gets worse sometimes before it gets better. Your ex probably has a lot to deal with and I knowyou wont want to cause him undue pain but you offered part of you and to channel energy through you, which is an unselfish act.. it may have done him more good than being treated by a stranger, cause the healing he needs concerns you.. don't feel bad for trying your best.. be glad you are strong enough to be able to do that.
Answers:
Thank you for all your replies.
I feel better today than i did when i made the post and can fully undertand where you are all coming from. Thank you for your support and encouragement.
The emotional space between us seems to have grown since the treatment and although i have not spoken to him i know that this is true for him too. Which is why i think the sense of loss was all the greaterafter the treatment.
I think deep down i knew it wasn't a 'bad reaction' as such but after so much upset i needed to hear it from someone else!
Jill - many thanks for the suggestion about people sending me Reiki. If anyone has the time to do this it would be much appreciated.
Love and light
Sunbeamxx
I have decided to leave the siutation open with regard to more Reiki and see if he brings it up. If he doesn't then it feels right just to let it go.
Answers:
Love, light and healing Sunbeam. All part of the process and good that you are both facing your feelings and processing them.
Love is the way........
Divine Love
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