Question:
Good morning everyone,
I have posted before about a client I have who cannot connect with her emotions. We have been working with a combination of EFT and Reiki and some progress has been made in other areas but we keep literally hitting a brick wall regarding connecting with her emotions. Lots of things have come up about her past/family life etc but if she cannot feel anything I find it difficult to be able to tap as whatever setup we use just confirms her belief that she is 'ok' ( even though we know she isn't!). I feel that she is depressed because she doesn't look forward to anything, can't visualize and cannot see beauty in anything. Can anyone point me in the right direction to help this lady? Is there any other therapy that might help her more than I can offer? We have discussed the inner child and she agrees that it's possible that this could be true but just cannot imagine this 9yr old girl that she is reacting emotionally to. I've asked her if she can 'talk' to this lost little girl and let her know that she will take care of her but she just cannot 'connect'.
I would be very grateful for any advice!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
If she is hitting a brick wall, then that is the energy blockage that needs to be dealt with. Use EmoTrance to allow energy to start to pass through the wall one tiny pinprick at a time, and only as much as she feels comfortable with allowing to seep through the tiny hole. Remind her she has complete control at all times of how much of the energy is allowed through.
A word of caution here: If she has the brick wall in place, it will be for a very good reason to her unconscious mind, so be careful. Too much too quick can be too much to deal with and can make things worse for her. So,slowly does it. If she feels umcomfortable with even the tiny bit coming through, get her to plug the hole immediately.
If she is okay with the energy flowing through, then add another tiny hole. Etc.
Soon she will becomfortable with much more and then the wall may start to disappear.
If you are not aware of emotrance, then I'd give the above a miss until you speak to someone in detail about how to deal with possible abreactions etc.
Hugs and warmies
Steve
Thank you Steve. I have not looked at Emotrance yet so will do some research. The lady herself is the one 'pushing' to connect with her emotions as she 'knows' this is not healthy for her. I agree with going slowly and I have discussed this with her, ie the wall is up for protection and things could feel worse before getting better but she is still keen!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
It would be a great benefit if you let us know what sort of affirmations or setup that you our using.
Carl
[align=left]Hi there, [/align][align=left]As always universal sync & all . . :-)[/align][align=left]I'm just working with someone who shares exactly the same separation.She workssufficiently, cleverly as many isolatated, insular separate pieces, functioning as required when necessary - this detached stance has been a painful process to access& unite, but not at all slow. Access was immediate !. ( at times, energy connecting is such a powerful thing on a cellular level it just happens )[/align][align=left]Wonderfully all she is & all she is yet to become is most profoundly evident andit's definitely possible.Importantly she is almost there, soon she will become wonderfully whole & trust all she is.[/align][align=left][/align][align=left]I can't remember what therapies you do, Perhaps you can email me if you wish to discuss process further & I'll describe exactly what you could do to perhaps access & connect her back to whom she should be. However she will need to continue growing & feeling safe etc thus she does need to be prepared to share the journey with you for a few weeks/months - however long her process takes.[/align][align=left][/align][align=left]Abundant Blessings & Warming Soul Rubs :-[/align][align=left][/align][align=left]<edited by Energylz to increase font size>[/align]
Hi Reikiangel,
I'm sure you've probably already done this (thought I'd mention it just in case) but when doing Reiki on her have you tried using the connection symbol to help connect her emotions with the rest of her? (e.gher connecting head & heart/solar plexus) I know that this isn't the "normal" use of HSZSN but I have found it useful for the problem you speak of.
It's just a thought.
The fact that your client doesnt "feel" much is most likely a defence mechanism. If she can't feel these things then she doesnt risk getting hurt. If what I'm about to say isn't the sort of thing she is experiencing then please just disregard it & don't think I'm a loon *lol*
A good few years ago I was like this myself - it is odd & I felt "fine" at the time but I knew it wasn't right. I wasn't passionate about anything, I didn't feel emotions such as love( on a deep level anyway), sadness, guilt,etc. Someone could tell me some very bad/sadnews that should've affected me & my response would've been "oh right ok then" & then feel like I had to fakebeing sad so I didn't appear as being heartlessto them. It is very strange not to feel emotions on any significant level. I'm not sure if this kinda thing is what you are talking about & I have never heard anyone talk of it before.
Anyway, it was during that time I found Reiki & it helped completely although it did take a while. I do sometimes feel at times (although not very often)as though I feel less emotions-wise than others but at least I feel human again. I don't know exactly how it happend in the first place & I know it makes me sound rather disturbed *lol* but it wassuch amatter-of-fact thing that I think had to play out at the time.
Try advising your client to make herself do things that she used to enjoy. Now she may say that she doesn't have any motivation to & doesn't see the point especially as she doesn't feel as strongly about it as she once did, but tell her to do them anyway & not give up on it. This may help. You could also get her to write a list of what makes her happy & what makes her sad & have her really think about each thing in turn. That may help to rekindle & release these emotions. Even if its a "negative" emotion such as sadness or anger, it will still help. I now welcome such feelings as having them makes one feel alive (& I don't see them as negative). Not having them does the opposite.
Love & Light,
SS
x
Hi Reikiangel- as soon as i saw your post I thought of a book called 'setting your heart on fire' by Raphael Cushnir. I borrowed it from the library once and I thinkthere was quite a goodsection on connecting with your emotions. I will be going to the library on Saturday in my lunch hour so I can see if I can find any relevant bits in it or whether it's worth recommending to you as something to borrow....
Thank you all so much for your helpful responses! I will read through them more thoroughly over the next few days so please bear with me! Thank you Pre for your post, also thank you for sharing your experience x-shining-star-x. Azalia, I would be grateful for any info on that book too!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
I have posted before about a client I have who cannot connect with her emotions. We have been working with a combination of EFT and Reiki and some progress has been made in other areas but we keep literally hitting a brick wall regarding connecting with her emotions. Lots of things have come up about her past/family life etc but if she cannot feel anything I find it difficult to be able to tap as whatever setup we use just confirms her belief that she is 'ok' ( even though we know she isn't!). I feel that she is depressed because she doesn't look forward to anything, can't visualize and cannot see beauty in anything. Can anyone point me in the right direction to help this lady? Is there any other therapy that might help her more than I can offer? We have discussed the inner child and she agrees that it's possible that this could be true but just cannot imagine this 9yr old girl that she is reacting emotionally to. I've asked her if she can 'talk' to this lost little girl and let her know that she will take care of her but she just cannot 'connect'.
I would be very grateful for any advice!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
Answers:
If she is hitting a brick wall, then that is the energy blockage that needs to be dealt with. Use EmoTrance to allow energy to start to pass through the wall one tiny pinprick at a time, and only as much as she feels comfortable with allowing to seep through the tiny hole. Remind her she has complete control at all times of how much of the energy is allowed through.
A word of caution here: If she has the brick wall in place, it will be for a very good reason to her unconscious mind, so be careful. Too much too quick can be too much to deal with and can make things worse for her. So,slowly does it. If she feels umcomfortable with even the tiny bit coming through, get her to plug the hole immediately.
If she is okay with the energy flowing through, then add another tiny hole. Etc.
Soon she will becomfortable with much more and then the wall may start to disappear.
If you are not aware of emotrance, then I'd give the above a miss until you speak to someone in detail about how to deal with possible abreactions etc.
Hugs and warmies
Steve
Answers:
Thank you Steve. I have not looked at Emotrance yet so will do some research. The lady herself is the one 'pushing' to connect with her emotions as she 'knows' this is not healthy for her. I agree with going slowly and I have discussed this with her, ie the wall is up for protection and things could feel worse before getting better but she is still keen!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
Answers:
It would be a great benefit if you let us know what sort of affirmations or setup that you our using.
Carl
Answers:
[align=left]Hi there, [/align][align=left]As always universal sync & all . . :-)[/align][align=left]I'm just working with someone who shares exactly the same separation.She workssufficiently, cleverly as many isolatated, insular separate pieces, functioning as required when necessary - this detached stance has been a painful process to access& unite, but not at all slow. Access was immediate !. ( at times, energy connecting is such a powerful thing on a cellular level it just happens )[/align][align=left]Wonderfully all she is & all she is yet to become is most profoundly evident andit's definitely possible.Importantly she is almost there, soon she will become wonderfully whole & trust all she is.[/align][align=left][/align][align=left]I can't remember what therapies you do, Perhaps you can email me if you wish to discuss process further & I'll describe exactly what you could do to perhaps access & connect her back to whom she should be. However she will need to continue growing & feeling safe etc thus she does need to be prepared to share the journey with you for a few weeks/months - however long her process takes.[/align][align=left][/align][align=left]Abundant Blessings & Warming Soul Rubs :-[/align][align=left][/align][align=left]<edited by Energylz to increase font size>[/align]
Answers:
Hi Reikiangel,
I'm sure you've probably already done this (thought I'd mention it just in case) but when doing Reiki on her have you tried using the connection symbol to help connect her emotions with the rest of her? (e.gher connecting head & heart/solar plexus) I know that this isn't the "normal" use of HSZSN but I have found it useful for the problem you speak of.
It's just a thought.
The fact that your client doesnt "feel" much is most likely a defence mechanism. If she can't feel these things then she doesnt risk getting hurt. If what I'm about to say isn't the sort of thing she is experiencing then please just disregard it & don't think I'm a loon *lol*
A good few years ago I was like this myself - it is odd & I felt "fine" at the time but I knew it wasn't right. I wasn't passionate about anything, I didn't feel emotions such as love( on a deep level anyway), sadness, guilt,etc. Someone could tell me some very bad/sadnews that should've affected me & my response would've been "oh right ok then" & then feel like I had to fakebeing sad so I didn't appear as being heartlessto them. It is very strange not to feel emotions on any significant level. I'm not sure if this kinda thing is what you are talking about & I have never heard anyone talk of it before.
Anyway, it was during that time I found Reiki & it helped completely although it did take a while. I do sometimes feel at times (although not very often)as though I feel less emotions-wise than others but at least I feel human again. I don't know exactly how it happend in the first place & I know it makes me sound rather disturbed *lol* but it wassuch amatter-of-fact thing that I think had to play out at the time.
Try advising your client to make herself do things that she used to enjoy. Now she may say that she doesn't have any motivation to & doesn't see the point especially as she doesn't feel as strongly about it as she once did, but tell her to do them anyway & not give up on it. This may help. You could also get her to write a list of what makes her happy & what makes her sad & have her really think about each thing in turn. That may help to rekindle & release these emotions. Even if its a "negative" emotion such as sadness or anger, it will still help. I now welcome such feelings as having them makes one feel alive (& I don't see them as negative). Not having them does the opposite.
Love & Light,
SS
x
Answers:
Hi Reikiangel- as soon as i saw your post I thought of a book called 'setting your heart on fire' by Raphael Cushnir. I borrowed it from the library once and I thinkthere was quite a goodsection on connecting with your emotions. I will be going to the library on Saturday in my lunch hour so I can see if I can find any relevant bits in it or whether it's worth recommending to you as something to borrow....
Answers:
Thank you all so much for your helpful responses! I will read through them more thoroughly over the next few days so please bear with me! Thank you Pre for your post, also thank you for sharing your experience x-shining-star-x. Azalia, I would be grateful for any info on that book too!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
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