Question:
Say you have a fear of something..
How do you tune into the problem before you do the tapping?
It's hard to get into the "Fearful mentality" while you are in the comfort of your own home.
And the reminer phrase just feels like you are "restating" the problem, instead of actually tuning into it..
Any advice or tips on how to tune into the problem?
Hi hopesfall
I have been doing EFT on myself for a couple of months now and had the same problem with tuning in that you have mentioned. So what I do now is wait until that fear actually comes up again and then work with the feeling. This has been successful with my spider phobia (a massive spider was sitting on the bathroom floor at the time!) and also with my anxiety about going to places when I don't really feel up to it. I have also used it like this for the many past and present emotional upsets which come up on a regular basis, and this seems to work really well for me. Hopefully someone has some other suggestions for you but good luck anyway.
Sandra
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It worked for my sister (fear of snakes) without her needing to get into the "mood".
Hi there,
The problem stated here is a very common one for beginners, especially if nobody has shown you how to do it and you go by what you read or by first impressions from the first video set, so you are in good company.
What beginners often tap on is things like "this fear", but let me ask you a question: can you count the number of times in your life that you have felt fear? Chances are that like most of us, this happened on numerous occasions to a lesser of greater degree. So when tapping on a feeling like "this fear" or "this anger" you are always running the risk of being too general and not connecting to the particular feelings you had during an incident when you felt this fearful state. So instead of tapping on a particular feeling, try tapping on a particular incident and get into the habit of calling the incident something other than "fear" or "anger" etc, eg "this locked in a cupboard at 5 feeling", "this giving a presentation last May feeling", "this job interview tomorrow morning feeling".
Let us know how you get on :)
Hi being specific is really key as Suzanne has described - being too general will take the edge of the emotion but won't neutralise it.
Another thing you can do is to notice where in your body you feel the emotion, even if it isn't the full blown fear, you will be getting clues as to where you are feeling it.
For example imagine a situation where you are going to have to confront your fear. Walk through the situation in your mind (if you can talk outloud about what you are experiencing) and the minute you get the slightest twinge somewhere in your body, stop and EFT that feeling. It might be in your stomach, neck, hands or anywhere in your body. It probably won't be full on fear, it might only be a rating of 1 or 2 because as you say you are in the comfort of your own home but is is still there and you need to make sure you get each twinge down to zero before continuing.
so you might say
'Even though I get this stabbing pain in my stomach when I think of touching a dog...'
'Even though I get this wincing feeling in my neck when I think of making a sales call...'
'Even though my chests constricts when ....'
Also I noticed I can tune out saying the reminder phrase and sort of go into a mini trance! - you can mix up the order you tap the points so it doesn't become routine or if you notice you have tuned out, consciously focus back on the body sensation again.
Good luck - let us know how you get on
Nicci
How do you tune into the problem before you do the tapping?
It's hard to get into the "Fearful mentality" while you are in the comfort of your own home.
And the reminer phrase just feels like you are "restating" the problem, instead of actually tuning into it..
Any advice or tips on how to tune into the problem?
Answers:
Hi hopesfall
I have been doing EFT on myself for a couple of months now and had the same problem with tuning in that you have mentioned. So what I do now is wait until that fear actually comes up again and then work with the feeling. This has been successful with my spider phobia (a massive spider was sitting on the bathroom floor at the time!) and also with my anxiety about going to places when I don't really feel up to it. I have also used it like this for the many past and present emotional upsets which come up on a regular basis, and this seems to work really well for me. Hopefully someone has some other suggestions for you but good luck anyway.
Sandra
x
Answers:
It worked for my sister (fear of snakes) without her needing to get into the "mood".
Answers:
Hi there,
The problem stated here is a very common one for beginners, especially if nobody has shown you how to do it and you go by what you read or by first impressions from the first video set, so you are in good company.
What beginners often tap on is things like "this fear", but let me ask you a question: can you count the number of times in your life that you have felt fear? Chances are that like most of us, this happened on numerous occasions to a lesser of greater degree. So when tapping on a feeling like "this fear" or "this anger" you are always running the risk of being too general and not connecting to the particular feelings you had during an incident when you felt this fearful state. So instead of tapping on a particular feeling, try tapping on a particular incident and get into the habit of calling the incident something other than "fear" or "anger" etc, eg "this locked in a cupboard at 5 feeling", "this giving a presentation last May feeling", "this job interview tomorrow morning feeling".
Let us know how you get on :)
Answers:
Hi being specific is really key as Suzanne has described - being too general will take the edge of the emotion but won't neutralise it.
Another thing you can do is to notice where in your body you feel the emotion, even if it isn't the full blown fear, you will be getting clues as to where you are feeling it.
For example imagine a situation where you are going to have to confront your fear. Walk through the situation in your mind (if you can talk outloud about what you are experiencing) and the minute you get the slightest twinge somewhere in your body, stop and EFT that feeling. It might be in your stomach, neck, hands or anywhere in your body. It probably won't be full on fear, it might only be a rating of 1 or 2 because as you say you are in the comfort of your own home but is is still there and you need to make sure you get each twinge down to zero before continuing.
so you might say
'Even though I get this stabbing pain in my stomach when I think of touching a dog...'
'Even though I get this wincing feeling in my neck when I think of making a sales call...'
'Even though my chests constricts when ....'
Also I noticed I can tune out saying the reminder phrase and sort of go into a mini trance! - you can mix up the order you tap the points so it doesn't become routine or if you notice you have tuned out, consciously focus back on the body sensation again.
Good luck - let us know how you get on
Nicci
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