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I was asked by a friend to give some reiki healing to his father who is in hospital with terminal kidney cancer... I did the healing yesterday evening and felt it went really well, and gave the family reassuring words as you do... but he sadly passed away this morning. Now, i was saying to him in the healing session that it was okay for him to do what he needs to do - and that everyone would be around him supporting him and there for him if he decided to think himself back to health - if that was what he wanted to do.... and there would be divine guidance awaiting him on the other side where he would also be in safe hands if he chose to go - i told him that it was up to him and to do whatever he needed to rest his soul. However, i came away obviously hoping that he would miraculously recover - but he did the opposite in everyone's eyes. Now my spiritual head is telling me that this is ok and that this is what was needing to happen divinely... but my lateral head is thinking "screwed that up!" This has never happened to me - I always have such positive responses from reiki sessions and this has knocked me for six really. I must state though, that this is the first time i have given reiki to someone who was terminally ill..... What are your thoughts.... Feel really down about it! [&o]
Dear dip into healing
We are always open to a miracle and in a way a miracle did occur, his pain was brought to an end because his lease ran out, helping his transition through a peaceful exit towards the light is a wonderful act to have been involved in.
Pat yourself on the back and know that he will be touch.
You were there with a guiding light just when he needed it.
GOD bless you
Kim xx
Hi dip into healing
Kim has said it, you did what was required of you and you did actually get a positive result even though you might not see it at the moment.
There are only two absolutes in life and they are that you are born and then you move on back to spirit, if it would have been right for him to continue his physical existence then that is what would have happened, but when it is time to go then we do have to go ;)
Hi dip into healing,
Please dont feel bad about this. I think you made his journey that bit more special.
Such kinds words. I feel touched by this.
I agree. It's human nature to feel sad when somebody leaves us, but just as you mentioned during the treatment, it was for him to decide which way he wanted to go - maybe he didn't want to fight the cancer anymore - and wanted to go peacfully - and it sounds like he did.
You sound like a little guardian angel!
x
Hi Dip
and that is excately what you have had...you helped this man make his transition towards his light...
can't get more positive than that...
Don't be so hard on yourself ~ put it down to experience
Many blessings
stormdeva x
If it is any consolation I had a similar event happen a few years ago with the father of a friend of ours. My friend had asked me to send Reiki to her father-in-law who was quite ill in hospital but the dr's didn't know what was wrong with him ( he had come back from a tropical holiday and had caught something there).
Anyway, that evening I went to my bedroom to send Reiki to him and I could 'see' him. The next thing I knew I was at his bedside and we were communicating but not verbally. He 'told' me that he wanted to go but felt he couldn't do it to his family as it was very close to Christmas and he didn't want to upset them. I 'replied' that they would be upset whenever he went and to do what he felt was right for him. The ward had been low lit as it was past 10pm and at that point I saw a thin white laser-like light shine from the bottom of the bed, near his feet. I thought for a moment that it was a nurse shining a torch on him to see if he was asleep, but as I looked there was no one there but this light travelled up from his feet , up his chest, over his face and finished at the wall just above his head. I then realized that spirit were checking to see if he was ready to go yet. I said my goodbyes and the next instant I was back in my bedroom again. I couldn't wait to tell my husband what had just happened!
My friend phoned the next day and we had a chat (but of course I didn't tell her about my 'conversation'). A few days later she phoned to say that her father-in-law had died of a heart attack. I felt sad for the family but also so priveliged to have had that opportunity to see him and help him make his decision with the help of Reiki.
You did just what was needed at the time so please do not be hard on yourself. Remember, people get what they NEED, not always what we or they WANT.
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
When it's time to go , it's time to go... :)and you probably helped this man in the transition process, which I think is a very privileged position to be in. We tend to think of death as an end and that by bringing someone back from the brink of death we have done them a service, but that is not necessarily the case. The fear of the unknown, ie. death can be quite consuming, and I do believe Reiki has a place in helping and healing people along the way enabling them to feel calm enough to make the passage.
Reiki hugs,
Beate
Holistic Earth[sm=nature-smiley-008.gif]
Thank you all for your lovely responses - i feel much better about the situation and i know you are all so right in saying that it was a positive experience - thank you very much:)
I just have to say that I really understand how you must have felt. I am just learning about Reiki and the Universe and although I am fine with it all it is sometimes hard for others to see it. I have had Reiki II for some months now but I still haven't bucked up the courage to do a full treatment. And when I come across people who have so many blockages because of the lives that they have had to endure - I really want to help them but just don't have the confidence. To treat a terminally ill patient took a lot of courage and positive thinking and surely your Reiki Guide must have been there for you and knew all along the outcome.
Its good though that you have friends here but see if you can drum up a group to do a Reiki Share. I have one tonight, we meet up every month and swap stories and treatments - it is so encouraging.
I think my Reiki Guides actually are keeping me back at the moment because I am a lot enthusiatic and I would be running round trying to 'Heal the World'.
Don't loose the enthusiasm about yourself, Reiki and life because I really think we have been blessed with something amazing.
With much love
TRACY
What they all said.
If he was suffering any pain, you may have helped alleviate the pain. Sometimes Reiki works in very subtle ways; you may have just made him feel more calm and willing to accept death. Rest assured you provided some sort of help.
I treated a very dear friend with terminal cancer last year - she benefitted enormously from the treatments, and there were times I really, really thought I could save her life, if only I could treat her every day.........but it wasn't to be and she died, like your friend's Dad. At the end of the day, you gave him an oasis in the middle of the process of dying: an amazingly special experience for him, at a time of immense significance.
And if your experience of giving the treatment was anything like mine - you have had a wonderful, life - enhancing experience. I hope you will get over the gut-wrenching disappointment: and will accept what happened as a privilege.
Well done.
Sharonxx
Guys - you all are amazingly amazing!! I'm so proud to be part of a group of people who are so inspirational.... thank you so much - for being you....[sm=hug.gif]
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Dear dip into healing
We are always open to a miracle and in a way a miracle did occur, his pain was brought to an end because his lease ran out, helping his transition through a peaceful exit towards the light is a wonderful act to have been involved in.
Pat yourself on the back and know that he will be touch.
You were there with a guiding light just when he needed it.
GOD bless you
Kim xx
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Hi dip into healing
Kim has said it, you did what was required of you and you did actually get a positive result even though you might not see it at the moment.
There are only two absolutes in life and they are that you are born and then you move on back to spirit, if it would have been right for him to continue his physical existence then that is what would have happened, but when it is time to go then we do have to go ;)
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Hi dip into healing,
Please dont feel bad about this. I think you made his journey that bit more special.
Such kinds words. I feel touched by this.
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I agree. It's human nature to feel sad when somebody leaves us, but just as you mentioned during the treatment, it was for him to decide which way he wanted to go - maybe he didn't want to fight the cancer anymore - and wanted to go peacfully - and it sounds like he did.
You sound like a little guardian angel!
x
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Hi Dip
and that is excately what you have had...you helped this man make his transition towards his light...
can't get more positive than that...
Don't be so hard on yourself ~ put it down to experience
Many blessings
stormdeva x
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If it is any consolation I had a similar event happen a few years ago with the father of a friend of ours. My friend had asked me to send Reiki to her father-in-law who was quite ill in hospital but the dr's didn't know what was wrong with him ( he had come back from a tropical holiday and had caught something there).
Anyway, that evening I went to my bedroom to send Reiki to him and I could 'see' him. The next thing I knew I was at his bedside and we were communicating but not verbally. He 'told' me that he wanted to go but felt he couldn't do it to his family as it was very close to Christmas and he didn't want to upset them. I 'replied' that they would be upset whenever he went and to do what he felt was right for him. The ward had been low lit as it was past 10pm and at that point I saw a thin white laser-like light shine from the bottom of the bed, near his feet. I thought for a moment that it was a nurse shining a torch on him to see if he was asleep, but as I looked there was no one there but this light travelled up from his feet , up his chest, over his face and finished at the wall just above his head. I then realized that spirit were checking to see if he was ready to go yet. I said my goodbyes and the next instant I was back in my bedroom again. I couldn't wait to tell my husband what had just happened!
My friend phoned the next day and we had a chat (but of course I didn't tell her about my 'conversation'). A few days later she phoned to say that her father-in-law had died of a heart attack. I felt sad for the family but also so priveliged to have had that opportunity to see him and help him make his decision with the help of Reiki.
You did just what was needed at the time so please do not be hard on yourself. Remember, people get what they NEED, not always what we or they WANT.
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
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When it's time to go , it's time to go... :)and you probably helped this man in the transition process, which I think is a very privileged position to be in. We tend to think of death as an end and that by bringing someone back from the brink of death we have done them a service, but that is not necessarily the case. The fear of the unknown, ie. death can be quite consuming, and I do believe Reiki has a place in helping and healing people along the way enabling them to feel calm enough to make the passage.
Reiki hugs,
Beate
Holistic Earth[sm=nature-smiley-008.gif]
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Thank you all for your lovely responses - i feel much better about the situation and i know you are all so right in saying that it was a positive experience - thank you very much:)
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I just have to say that I really understand how you must have felt. I am just learning about Reiki and the Universe and although I am fine with it all it is sometimes hard for others to see it. I have had Reiki II for some months now but I still haven't bucked up the courage to do a full treatment. And when I come across people who have so many blockages because of the lives that they have had to endure - I really want to help them but just don't have the confidence. To treat a terminally ill patient took a lot of courage and positive thinking and surely your Reiki Guide must have been there for you and knew all along the outcome.
Its good though that you have friends here but see if you can drum up a group to do a Reiki Share. I have one tonight, we meet up every month and swap stories and treatments - it is so encouraging.
I think my Reiki Guides actually are keeping me back at the moment because I am a lot enthusiatic and I would be running round trying to 'Heal the World'.
Don't loose the enthusiasm about yourself, Reiki and life because I really think we have been blessed with something amazing.
With much love
TRACY
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What they all said.
If he was suffering any pain, you may have helped alleviate the pain. Sometimes Reiki works in very subtle ways; you may have just made him feel more calm and willing to accept death. Rest assured you provided some sort of help.
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I treated a very dear friend with terminal cancer last year - she benefitted enormously from the treatments, and there were times I really, really thought I could save her life, if only I could treat her every day.........but it wasn't to be and she died, like your friend's Dad. At the end of the day, you gave him an oasis in the middle of the process of dying: an amazingly special experience for him, at a time of immense significance.
And if your experience of giving the treatment was anything like mine - you have had a wonderful, life - enhancing experience. I hope you will get over the gut-wrenching disappointment: and will accept what happened as a privilege.
Well done.
Sharonxx
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Guys - you all are amazingly amazing!! I'm so proud to be part of a group of people who are so inspirational.... thank you so much - for being you....[sm=hug.gif]
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