Question:
Hi guys,
Just wondered if there's any hope with a problem I have. I can't bear to be alone in the house at night. When I say alone, I mean without hubby being here. It doesn't happen very often but when it does, I end up being awake for most of the night, listening to all the creaks in the house, and thinking something's going to happen. Crazy I know!
Steve was away for a night last week and I just couldn't sleep and had panic attacks through the night. I've tried everything to relax and I've tried psychic protection but I don't know why I can't get over this. Leaving a radio on low used to help, or leaving the lights on, but not now. All sorts of things go through my mind, like someone breaking in to the house, or the power going off, amongst many other irrational thoughs! I tried having little James in the bed with me, but that didn't work either.
He's away again tomorrow night for two nights and I just don't know what I'm going to do. Rachel goes to nursery in the mornings but I'm still considering staying at my parents even though it would mean leaving the house at 7am to get her there in time!!!
It's really a problem that I need to deal with but I don't know where to start. Do you know of anything I could try to maybe overcome this?
Many thanks for your help [sm=hug.gif][sm=1kis.gif]
Love
Louise
xxxxx
Hi Louise,
My hubby works away quite a bit and it has taken me some getting used to so I know totally where you are coming from. For me is was not quite so bad as having panic attacks but I would wake at any little creak, and my imagination would go into overdrive - BIG time.
I do not know if its a mix of getting used to it or just finding ways that worked for me but its not a trial for me anymore when he is away. I always made sure that the curtains/blinds were all closed just as it went dark and checked that the doors were locked and would leave a light or two on upstairs until I went to bed, and sometimes even slept with the landing light on. I also ask for the angels to guard the 4 corners of the house and ask Archangel Micheal to take aware my fear. I am not sure why but I started to feel calm and slept well. Now I only feel the need to ask if something startles me and wakes me or if my imagination is being particularly active. I also found going to bed a little earlier than I would when Hubs was at home helped. I would close the bedroom door - something we never do when Hub is at home and read and wind down so that I was relaxed in bed, rather than dreading going to bed because i was on my own.
Some of these may or may not help. I guess you can but try. Also keep a torch in your bedside table, keep you mobile close by as well. All these assurances might also help. Also can you or someone you know fill your house with Reiki to comfort and relax you. Also avoid certain programmes on the TV when you know your hubs will be away, things that might trigger these thoughts.
LOL
Babe
x
Louise, I think EFT would really help. Have you tried it at all? It changes your sub-conscious thought patterns, and things that you thought you couldn't control become easier. Although events are the same - your attitude towards them changes. The web-site is www.emofree.com
Bestwishes,
Sharonxxx
Hiya
Being alone and hearing all sorts of noises can be a bit frightening. I too have had one or two experiences of it myself in the past.
I agree with spinal music that EFT is very effective at helping you to get relief. If you want to do that and have downloaded the manual, or seen a practitioner and are able to do some of the work by yourself, I would suggest that you sit down and think of the very first time your sleep was disturbed.
With me I remember being woken up by a very angry group of people outside our house one night when I was about 8 years old. The people were smashing things up and shouting etc and my mum was screaming at them to leave as there were children asleep. It frightened the life out of me!
I suffered with sleepless nights only when I left home many years later, probably because I was now in sole charge of my safety. Like you, I too would hear every creak and keep getting up to go and have a look. Once I discovered EFT, I managed to put it to rest once and for all.
I followed the exercises to get rid of my fear which started way back when I was 8 and (touch wood) have had no problems since.
There are other things you can do too, if EFT is not up your street. Hypnotherapy is very effective and another favourite of mine is EmoTrance. Some people can see a counsellor on the NHS via their GP. So the answer is, do not suffer any longer, you have lots of options and many wonderful HPers to help you. Many HPers are here in the middle of the night, so always pop in and see who is on and say hello.
Hugs[sm=grouphug.gif]
Steve
Babe, Sharon, Steve, thanks guys. Really appreciate your advice on this. I chickened out and stayed at my parents [&:] Just can't handle it once it goes dark outside. I'm terrible in the winter evenings, even if Steve's just out at work and I know he'll be coming back.
I've seen 'EFT' around but don't know what it is or how it works so I'm off to check it out now, thanks for the link.
Steve, thanks for sharing, you've been a great help. [sm=hug.gif]
Thanks again [sm=1kis.gif]
Louise
xxx
Just wondered if there's any hope with a problem I have. I can't bear to be alone in the house at night. When I say alone, I mean without hubby being here. It doesn't happen very often but when it does, I end up being awake for most of the night, listening to all the creaks in the house, and thinking something's going to happen. Crazy I know!
Steve was away for a night last week and I just couldn't sleep and had panic attacks through the night. I've tried everything to relax and I've tried psychic protection but I don't know why I can't get over this. Leaving a radio on low used to help, or leaving the lights on, but not now. All sorts of things go through my mind, like someone breaking in to the house, or the power going off, amongst many other irrational thoughs! I tried having little James in the bed with me, but that didn't work either.
He's away again tomorrow night for two nights and I just don't know what I'm going to do. Rachel goes to nursery in the mornings but I'm still considering staying at my parents even though it would mean leaving the house at 7am to get her there in time!!!
It's really a problem that I need to deal with but I don't know where to start. Do you know of anything I could try to maybe overcome this?
Many thanks for your help [sm=hug.gif][sm=1kis.gif]
Love
Louise
xxxxx
Answers:
Hi Louise,
My hubby works away quite a bit and it has taken me some getting used to so I know totally where you are coming from. For me is was not quite so bad as having panic attacks but I would wake at any little creak, and my imagination would go into overdrive - BIG time.
I do not know if its a mix of getting used to it or just finding ways that worked for me but its not a trial for me anymore when he is away. I always made sure that the curtains/blinds were all closed just as it went dark and checked that the doors were locked and would leave a light or two on upstairs until I went to bed, and sometimes even slept with the landing light on. I also ask for the angels to guard the 4 corners of the house and ask Archangel Micheal to take aware my fear. I am not sure why but I started to feel calm and slept well. Now I only feel the need to ask if something startles me and wakes me or if my imagination is being particularly active. I also found going to bed a little earlier than I would when Hubs was at home helped. I would close the bedroom door - something we never do when Hub is at home and read and wind down so that I was relaxed in bed, rather than dreading going to bed because i was on my own.
Some of these may or may not help. I guess you can but try. Also keep a torch in your bedside table, keep you mobile close by as well. All these assurances might also help. Also can you or someone you know fill your house with Reiki to comfort and relax you. Also avoid certain programmes on the TV when you know your hubs will be away, things that might trigger these thoughts.
LOL
Babe
x
Answers:
Louise, I think EFT would really help. Have you tried it at all? It changes your sub-conscious thought patterns, and things that you thought you couldn't control become easier. Although events are the same - your attitude towards them changes. The web-site is www.emofree.com
Bestwishes,
Sharonxxx
Answers:
Hiya
Being alone and hearing all sorts of noises can be a bit frightening. I too have had one or two experiences of it myself in the past.
I agree with spinal music that EFT is very effective at helping you to get relief. If you want to do that and have downloaded the manual, or seen a practitioner and are able to do some of the work by yourself, I would suggest that you sit down and think of the very first time your sleep was disturbed.
With me I remember being woken up by a very angry group of people outside our house one night when I was about 8 years old. The people were smashing things up and shouting etc and my mum was screaming at them to leave as there were children asleep. It frightened the life out of me!
I suffered with sleepless nights only when I left home many years later, probably because I was now in sole charge of my safety. Like you, I too would hear every creak and keep getting up to go and have a look. Once I discovered EFT, I managed to put it to rest once and for all.
I followed the exercises to get rid of my fear which started way back when I was 8 and (touch wood) have had no problems since.
There are other things you can do too, if EFT is not up your street. Hypnotherapy is very effective and another favourite of mine is EmoTrance. Some people can see a counsellor on the NHS via their GP. So the answer is, do not suffer any longer, you have lots of options and many wonderful HPers to help you. Many HPers are here in the middle of the night, so always pop in and see who is on and say hello.
Hugs[sm=grouphug.gif]
Steve
Answers:
Babe, Sharon, Steve, thanks guys. Really appreciate your advice on this. I chickened out and stayed at my parents [&:] Just can't handle it once it goes dark outside. I'm terrible in the winter evenings, even if Steve's just out at work and I know he'll be coming back.
I've seen 'EFT' around but don't know what it is or how it works so I'm off to check it out now, thanks for the link.
Steve, thanks for sharing, you've been a great help. [sm=hug.gif]
Thanks again [sm=1kis.gif]
Louise
xxx
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