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O/T sorry, but need some advice/help!
I'm not sure where this should be posted really (and I know it'S certainly not in here) but I love this board, and need some advice.
Basically, my problem is at certain situations I cry uncontrollably, and can't stop. This has all started since I came out to germany, and got homesick for the first time, and it'S escalated to situations where I don't really feel wanted.
For example: last sunday I was due to go to a Rotary club social with my dad, and had really really been looking forward to it, got togged up and got there, finished half my glass of wine, and started crying behind my sunnies, told dad I was feeling ill and went home, saying I'd pick him up later. I came home sobbing like a mad thing in the car, and was like that all afternoon. I thought this was bizarre, I was looking forward to it, and I've known these people for years, and really wanted to go, but I just can't stop myself from crying, no matter how hard I try. My mum thinks I've gone crackers!
Anyway, there's a party tonight I also really want to go to, and have been looking forward to for weeks, but I've been crying about it already, and am now not going to go, because I know what'll happen.
I'm fine when I'm at work or with friends, like I said, it's this feeling of not being wanted, or having noone to talk to at all.
I used to be so happy and confident, and now I'm like this and miserable. Thanks if you've got this far.
Couldn't read and not post hun :hug:
Have you seen a doctor? It sounds like some kind of depressive state, possibly linked to you being homesick?
When you feel like you're not wanted...is it a case of being fine one minute and then suffering some sort of block all of a sudden where the feelings come in, making you cry?
Have you tried any calming therapies like aromatherapy, kalms tablets or flower remedies? They may help somewhat if you're feeling anxious.
Please go see a doctor if it carries on :hug:
Yeh it is, like on Sunday, I got there, was right as rain and perfectly happy, then suddenly, tears and me having to run away, when someone jokingly said - oh go away! to me, no offence meant whatsoever, but it set me off. Before, nothing that silly would#Ve upset me, i'd have laughed it off and not thought twice about it!
Unfortunately, I can'T get any tablets or anything, or see my GP until the end of July when I next go home. And it'S not like I really feel anxious either, it just sort of happens!
Hi! Sorry to hear this hun :higgies:
Do you have any idea where this is coming from? It sounds like it's rooted in something deeper. Are you unhappy in certain areas of your life? Have you suffered a trauma or bereavement that could be causing this - even some time ago?
My one and only bereavement was my grandad 5 years ago.
The only area of my life I'm unhappy with is being a bit lonely this year, out here on my own. I'm absolutely fine here now, but I had a really miserable time until christmas, feeling alone, which is so unlike me, I'm not that sort of person. I usually love new things, never been sad away from home before or anything.
I'm not sure where this should be posted really (and I know it'S certainly not in here) but I love this board, and need some advice.
Basically, my problem is at certain situations I cry uncontrollably, and can't stop. This has all started since I came out to germany, and got homesick for the first time, and it'S escalated to situations where I don't really feel wanted.
For example: last sunday I was due to go to a Rotary club social with my dad, and had really really been looking forward to it, got togged up and got there, finished half my glass of wine, and started crying behind my sunnies, told dad I was feeling ill and went home, saying I'd pick him up later. I came home sobbing like a mad thing in the car, and was like that all afternoon. I thought this was bizarre, I was looking forward to it, and I've known these people for years, and really wanted to go, but I just can't stop myself from crying, no matter how hard I try. My mum thinks I've gone crackers!
Anyway, there's a party tonight I also really want to go to, and have been looking forward to for weeks, but I've been crying about it already, and am now not going to go, because I know what'll happen.
I'm fine when I'm at work or with friends, like I said, it's this feeling of not being wanted, or having noone to talk to at all.
I used to be so happy and confident, and now I'm like this and miserable. Thanks if you've got this far.
Answers:
Couldn't read and not post hun :hug:
Have you seen a doctor? It sounds like some kind of depressive state, possibly linked to you being homesick?
When you feel like you're not wanted...is it a case of being fine one minute and then suffering some sort of block all of a sudden where the feelings come in, making you cry?
Have you tried any calming therapies like aromatherapy, kalms tablets or flower remedies? They may help somewhat if you're feeling anxious.
Please go see a doctor if it carries on :hug:
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Yeh it is, like on Sunday, I got there, was right as rain and perfectly happy, then suddenly, tears and me having to run away, when someone jokingly said - oh go away! to me, no offence meant whatsoever, but it set me off. Before, nothing that silly would#Ve upset me, i'd have laughed it off and not thought twice about it!
Unfortunately, I can'T get any tablets or anything, or see my GP until the end of July when I next go home. And it'S not like I really feel anxious either, it just sort of happens!
Answers:
Hi! Sorry to hear this hun :higgies:
Do you have any idea where this is coming from? It sounds like it's rooted in something deeper. Are you unhappy in certain areas of your life? Have you suffered a trauma or bereavement that could be causing this - even some time ago?
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My one and only bereavement was my grandad 5 years ago.
The only area of my life I'm unhappy with is being a bit lonely this year, out here on my own. I'm absolutely fine here now, but I had a really miserable time until christmas, feeling alone, which is so unlike me, I'm not that sort of person. I usually love new things, never been sad away from home before or anything.